Don’t Ignore This Red Flag Before Marriage: The Danger of Lack of Submission

Beloved, God has brought a few people across my path to show me something very serious—the danger of marrying someone who has no regard for authority or accountability. This is not a small issue, and it is not something to overlook because of emotions or outward appearances. It is a foundational matter that can either stabilize a marriage or destroy it completely.

There are people who do not listen to anyone but themselves. Sadly, many of them even identify as Christians. I may not fully agree with calling them that, but I have to, because they go to church and have mastered the right “Christian language.” They can speak well, sound spiritual, and even appear committed—but something critical is missing in their character.

A true Christian has a soft and humble heart. A true Christian has regard not only for God but also for people. When things are not going well, a genuine believer is open to correction. They are willing to listen to their leaders, set aside personal opinions, and follow godly counsel—even when it is uncomfortable or goes against what they feel.

The Bible makes this very clear. How can you claim to love God, whom you cannot see, when you do not love the people around you? How can you say you submit to God, yet you cannot submit to any form of human authority He has placed in your life? These are questions we must take seriously, especially when making life decisions like marriage.

Marriage is a beautiful thing, and many of us look forward to it with great expectation. But before you say “I do,” take time to truly know who you are committing your life to. One of the most important questions you must answer is this: Who is this person accountable to? If your potential spouse has no one they listen to, you are stepping into something dangerous.

Run as fast as you can.

Do not look back. Do not allow emotions to blind your judgment. Do not be deceived by the love they show you today or the attention they give you. Do not be carried away by how spiritual they sound or how fluently they speak in tongues. When real life situations come—and they will—their true nature will show, and you may not like what you see.

Many people ignore this red flag because they are blinded by money, beauty, or the excitement of being loved. Some are carried away by gifts, attention, or the desire to finally settle down. But now that you are reading this, you can no longer say you did not know. Knowledge brings responsibility.

I am begging you—please do not marry someone who does not submit to anyone.

Now, how do you know if your potential spouse is truly submissive? It is not enough for them to say it. Anyone can claim submission, but true submission is revealed through actions, not words. There are simple but powerful ways to discern this if you are willing to pay attention.

First, ask them directly: Who do you submit to? A serious and grounded person should be able to answer this clearly. There should be someone in their life they respect, listen to, and are accountable to. If they struggle to answer or give vague responses, that is already a sign to be cautious.

Second, observe them carefully—prayerfully and patiently. Watch how they respond to instructions or correction from that person they claim to submit to. Do they follow through, or do they resist when it is inconvenient? Do they become defensive, or do they remain teachable and open?

If someone says they submit to a leader but ignores that leader’s counsel—especially when it challenges their desires—then they are not truly submissive. If their mindset is, “Why should he tell me what to do?” or “Is it because I said I submit to him?” then what you are seeing is not submission—it is pride disguised as independence.

I took time to write this because I have seen marriages suffer deeply due to this single issue. What should have been small disagreements turned into major crises, simply because one person refused to listen to anyone. When there is no accountability, there is no structure—and where there is no structure, things fall apart.

Some people carry a very dangerous mindset: “No one is my God, so no one has the right to correct me.” While it is true that no one is God, it is also true that God places people in our lives for guidance, correction, and growth. Rejecting that structure is rejecting a system God Himself established.

I beg you in the name of Jesus—do not ignore this. Do not marry someone who does not submit to anyone.

But if your goal is simply to get married at all costs, without considering what comes after, then you are free to make that choice. Just understand what you are stepping into. And when things begin to fall apart, do not act surprised.

God bless you.

The Subject I Hated in School Is Now My Daily Bread.

 

I went to visit my elder sister one day, and it turned into one of those simple moments that carry deep lessons. We were all seated on the bed together—myself and one of my nieces were busy editing an AI video, while the youngest sat quietly with a book in her hand. She was reading Things Fall Apart, trying to concentrate, but it was obvious she wasn’t enjoying it.

After a while, she murmured, “This book is too boring for my age.” Then she looked at me and said she doesn’t like Literature because it’s too bulky, and the reading was making her sleepy. The honesty in her voice made me smile, but it also stirred something deeper in me. That moment immediately took me back to my own school days.

I looked at her and said, “Never choose a subject based only on what you like right now. Sometimes, you have to discipline yourself to like every subject, because you don’t know which one will become important later in life.” It wasn’t just advice—I was speaking from experience, something I had learned the hard way.

Then I began to share my story with her so she could understand better. Back in primary and secondary school, I didn’t like English at all. The answers always seemed too long, too open-ended, and not as direct as I wanted. But Mathematics was different—I loved it because everyone could arrive at the same answer. It felt safe, clear, and predictable.

I spent most of my time solving math problems, and to be honest, those were the only textbooks I owned throughout my school years. I genuinely enjoyed working through calculations and finding solutions. It gave me a sense of confidence and control, something I didn’t feel with English.

Meanwhile, English was a struggle for me. I failed it many times, and even when I managed to pass, it was usually with a weak grade. But at that time, I didn’t see it as a problem. I convinced myself that English would not be important for the course I planned to study in the university, so I focused my energy on what I thought mattered.

Then life happened.

A few years later, I found myself doing something I never planned for—I started writing. Not just occasionally, but consistently. Writing became part of my daily life, and suddenly, the subject I had ignored became one of the most important tools I needed.

That was when reality hit me.

I said to myself, “If only I had known I would fall in love with writing, I would have taken English more seriously. In fact, I would have studied it just as much as Mathematics, if not more.” That realization stayed with me, and it completely changed how I view learning and preparation.

That experience taught me a lesson I will never forget. The things we ignore today may become the very things we depend on tomorrow. What feels boring now may later become your strength, your tool, or even your source of income.

This is why I strongly believe that we can teach the younger generation better, not only through structured classrooms, but through casual, everyday moments like this. Simple conversations, shared stories, and real-life experiences often leave deeper impressions than formal lessons.

We should not wait until morning devotion, evening prayers, or moments of correction before we teach life lessons. Sometimes, the best teaching happens in relaxed environments, where children feel free to express themselves and learn without pressure.

May God give us the wisdom to guide the next generation in the right way, and the patience to teach them with understanding.

Why True Disciples Don’t Leave Church Because of Offense

One day, people sought Jesus with the intention of making Him king. Instead of accepting it, He withdrew and, at a point, delivered a very hard message that many could not accept. That single message shook their expectations and exposed their true motives. By the end of that moment, He had lost more than 80% of His followers, showing that not everyone who follows is truly committed.

After that, He turned to His disciples and asked a very direct question: “Will you also go away?” Their response was powerful and revealing: “To whom shall we go? You alone have the words of eternal life.” They stayed with Jesus because they understood something deeper. They were not just following a man—they were following truth, and they knew they could not find it elsewhere.

On another occasion, Jesus rebuked Peter and said, “Get behind me, Satan.” That was a strong and direct correction, yet Peter was not offended and did not walk away. A disciple who truly understands why he is following Jesus will not allow words—whether pleasant or harsh—to drive him away. Conviction keeps him grounded, not emotions.

If we are honest, many people in today’s generation would have accused Jesus of being too harsh or insensitive. Some would have said He was rude or disrespectful. Others would have taken offense immediately and left. In fact, many would have concluded that such a place is not where they belong, simply because they were corrected or confronted.

Here is the bitter truth: people who truly know why they are in church, and understand the reason for serving God, do not leave because of offense. Their focus is not on people—it is on God. They are not easily shaken by what others say or do because their commitment goes beyond human interactions.

Some may say, “I will go and serve God in another church.” But think about it—was it God who offended you in the place you left? If your service is truly unto God, then your consistency should not depend on how people treat you. You will remain focused because you understand that it is God who rewards, not men.

Interestingly, we all work in offices where colleagues insult, gossip, criticize, and sometimes treat us unfairly. Yet, we rarely consider leaving our jobs because of that. We endure, adjust, and continue working. But when it comes to church, many are quick to walk away at the slightest offense. That contrast says a lot about priorities and understanding.

My brother, my sister—if you leave the church because of offense, you are not yet functioning as a disciple; you are operating like part of the multitude. And Jesus Himself showed that He would rather keep a few committed disciples than a large crowd with no real conviction or value for the kingdom.

The truth is, it is better to work with two willing and committed people than with a multitude that drags its feet. Jesus understood this clearly. That is why He asked His disciples if they also wanted to leave—He was testing their conviction, not begging for their presence.

May God grant us wisdom to understand why we follow Him, and the strength to remain grounded regardless of what comes our way.

My Healing Testimony: How God Healed Me Without Medication

When I finished secondary school, I fell sick. Before that time, I had been living what I would describe as a supernatural life, where I hardly depended on drugs or injections. I trusted God completely for my well-being, and that had been my reality for a long time. But this time, things changed in a way I did not expect, and it shook me deeply because it was not my usual experience.

I became seriously ill and was given seven injections along with several medications to take. I followed the instructions and took everything as prescribed, hoping to recover quickly. However, despite all the medication, there was no improvement in my condition. Instead of getting better, I remained the same, and that began to trouble me because it was not what I was used to.

As a youth leader, many people kept coming to the house to check on me. While I appreciated their concern, I became uncomfortable with the constant sympathy and the repeated “sorry” I was hearing. It began to affect me emotionally, so I decided to leave home for a while and stay at a friend’s place where I could have some quiet and avoid the attention.

One day, while I was lying down at my friend’s place, I heard a voice ask me a question that immediately caught my attention. The voice said, “Do you think this illness can be treated with medication?” The moment I heard that, something clicked inside me. I understood that it was more than just a random thought—it was a call to shift my focus.

Without wasting time, I made up my mind to return home and pray. It was already around 6 p.m. when I got back, and as I arrived, I realized that everyone in the house had gone to church. I was completely alone in the house, and that moment felt very intentional, as though it had been arranged for me to have that encounter without any distraction.

So I began to pray, and I spoke honestly from my heart. I said, “Father, I was not there when the Bible was written, so I cannot say whether what was written is right or wrong. But I have read in the Bible that Jesus was wounded for my transgressions and bruised for my iniquities. I thank You because drugs cannot handle this sickness. Therefore, heal me now, in Jesus’ name.”

A few minutes after I finished praying, something unusual happened. I suddenly felt as though someone poured cool water on my back, and the sensation was so real that it startled me. I immediately wondered who could have done that, but then it quickly came to my mind that I was alone in the house, and there was no one around who could have poured water on me.

So I asked aloud, “Who poured water on me?” And then I heard that same voice again, saying, “But you were asking God for something.” At that moment, everything became clear to me. I knew instantly that what I had just experienced was the answer to my prayer, and a deep conviction settled in my heart.

Immediately, something rose inside me—a boldness to act on what I believed had just happened. Before that time, I never took cold water; I always preferred warm water because I was careful with my health. But at that moment, I said within myself, “If this is truly the answer, then let me prove it.” So I went ahead and took cold water without hesitation.

Nothing happened. There was no negative reaction, no discomfort, no sign of sickness. I was completely fine, and at that point, I knew that something had truly changed. That was the end of the sickness, and from that moment, I never went back to taking the drugs again because I was completely healed.

That experience marked a turning point in my life. It made the Word of God real to me in a way that goes beyond reading or hearing—it became something I had personally experienced. It strengthened my faith and gave me a deeper confidence in God’s power to heal and to respond when we call on Him.

The Word of God is true, and you can rely on it.

The Art of Pleasant Speech: What Colossians 4:6 Really Means.

I woke up on the 18th of June, 2025, and as part of my usual routine, I opened Open Heavens to read the daily devotional. It was one of those mornings where you expect a normal reading, but something unexpected happens—something that stays with you long after you are done reading.

As I turned to the page, my eyes went straight to the memory verse for the day. It was simple, yet deeply thought-provoking. I read it once… then again… and the more I read it, the more questions began to form in my mind.

Colossians 4:6 (KJV)

“Let your speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man.”

At first glance, it sounded beautiful—but I paused and asked myself a very honest question:

What does it really mean for my speech to be “with grace” and “seasoned with salt”?

These were not just poetic words. They carried weight. They suggested a standard—a way of speaking that is intentional, refined, and impactful. But I needed clarity. I wanted to understand this instruction in a way that I could actually apply in my everyday life.

I knew that sometimes, older translations like the King James Version can sound a bit abstract, so I decided to check a more modern translation to get a clearer picture. I opened the Good News Translation and read the same verse again.

Colossians 4:6 (GNT)

“Your speech should always be pleasant and interesting, and you should know how to give the right answer to everyone.”

This version struck me immediately.

Two words jumped out at me—pleasant and interesting.

That was when everything began to shift in my understanding.

The instruction was no longer abstract. It became practical. It became something I could evaluate in my daily conversations.

I began to reflect on my own speech:

• Are my words pleasant?
• Are they interesting?
• Do people feel better after speaking with me, or drained?
• Do my words build, or do they quietly tear down?

These questions stayed with me.

I realized that many of us speak without intention. We talk every day, but we rarely think deeply about how we speak. We focus on what we want to say, but not always on how it is delivered. Yet, according to this Scripture, how we speak matters just as much as what we say.

That curiosity pushed me further.

I decided to do more research on what it really means to have pleasant and interesting speech. I wanted to understand the principles behind it, not just from a spiritual perspective, but also from a practical, everyday communication standpoint.

So I started asking questions, digging deeper, and exploring ideas around communication, tone, delivery, and impact.

That journey of curiosity didn’t just give me answers—it gave me direction.

It eventually led me to write a book titled “The Art of Pleasant Speech.”

What started as a simple question from a Bible verse became a full exploration of how our words shape our lives.

In the process of writing and reading the book, I discovered something powerful:

Your words are not just sounds—they are tools.

• They can open doors or close them.
• They can build relationships or destroy them.
• They can heal or hurt.
• They can attract people or push them away.
• Your words are, in many ways, your legacy.

People may forget what you did, but they often remember how you made them feel—and your words play a huge role in that.

One of the things I intentionally did in the book was to combine humor with real-life lessons. I didn’t want it to feel like a lecture. I wanted it to feel relatable, engaging, and practical—something you can read and immediately begin to apply.

Because the truth is, life becomes easier and more enjoyable when you learn how to speak well.

When your words are pleasant, people are more open to you.

When your speech is interesting, people are more willing to listen.

When your responses are thoughtful, you stand out without even trying.

That is exactly what the Scripture meant when it said, “that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man.”

It’s not just about talking—it’s about responding with wisdom, timing, and grace.

And this is a skill that can be learned.

Many people assume that good communication is something you are born with, but that is not entirely true. It is something you can develop with awareness and practice.

You can learn:

• How to control your tone
• How to choose your words wisely
• How to speak in a way that connects with people
• How to respond instead of react

And when you begin to grow in this area, you will notice changes in every part of your life—your relationships, your work, your influence, and even your personal confidence.

I have read The Art of Pleasant Speech twice already, and I still plan to read it again. Not because I don’t understand it, but because it is the kind of content that keeps revealing new insights each time you revisit it.

It’s practical. It’s relatable. And most importantly, it is something you can use immediately.

So let me leave you with this thought:

If your words truly shape your life…

Then learning how to use them well is not optional—it is essential.

Your words are your daily seeds.

What you say consistently is what you will eventually see.

If you want to grow, influence, and connect better with people, then you must pay attention to how you speak.

To get a copy of the book, click on the link below and start your journey toward mastering the art of pleasant speech.

God Wants You Well

My brothers and sisters, God wants you well—more than you even desire to be well. Do not listen to people who say God is using sickness to test you. That idea does not reflect the true nature of God.

Throughout the Bible, there is no clear place where God used sickness to test His people. Some may point to the story of Job, but even there, the sickness did not come from God—it came from the devil. God allowed the process, but He was not the source of the affliction.

Now, listen to what God is saying to you:

3 John 1:2

“Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospereth.”

God’s desire is clear—He wants you to be in health. This is not secondary to Him; it is part of His will for your life.

The same sacrifice that dealt with sin also addressed sickness. Sickness, like sin, is not from God—it is a result of the fallen world and the work of the enemy. God does not desire either of them to have a place in your life.

Now consider this:

Romans 8:32

“He that spared not his own Son, but delivered him up for us all, how shall he not with him also freely give us all things?”

If God could give us His only Son, Jesus, then sound health is not too much for Him to give. Healing is not beyond His ability, nor is it outside His willingness.

As you read this, if there is any sickness in your body, you can stand on this truth. Speak against it. Command it to leave in the name of Jesus.

God wants you well.

Rise and be healed.

The Word of God Is Medicine: How God’s Word Brings Healing.

There are a few things the devil does not want man to do—pray and study the Word of God. The reason he fights so strongly against the study of the Word is simple: if you truly get the Word into your spirit in any area of your life, the devil loses his hold in that area. The Word of God brings light, and once light comes, darkness cannot remain. This is why distractions, laziness, and excuses often come whenever it is time to study the Word. The enemy knows what is at stake. He understands that a believer grounded in the Word is a believer he cannot easily manipulate or oppress.

What I mean is this: if you truly receive the Word of God concerning healing into your spirit, it changes your reality. It is no longer just something you heard—it becomes something you know. At that point, fear of sickness begins to lose its grip over you. The devil does not want believers to come into that level of understanding and confidence. He would rather keep people dependent, confused, and uncertain. But once the truth of God’s Word settles in your heart, it produces results that cannot be easily reversed.

Let us look at what the Scripture says:

Proverbs 4:20–22

My son, attend to my words; incline thine ear unto my sayings.

Let them not depart from thine eyes; keep them in the midst of thine heart.

For they are life unto those that find them, and health to all their flesh.

What I want us to focus on is verse 22. The Bible says the Word of God is life to those who find it and health to all their flesh. This means the Word is not just spiritual—it has a direct impact on your physical body. It carries life, and that life flows into every part of you. The Word is not empty; it is active and powerful. It works from the inside out, transforming both spirit and body.

If you take time to study the Hebrew meaning of the word translated as “health,” you will discover something deeper—it actually means medicine. This gives us a clearer understanding of what God is saying. So, if we read that verse again with this understanding, it becomes even more powerful:

Proverbs 4:22

For they are life unto those that find them, and medicine to all their flesh.

Now you can see it clearly—the Word of God is medicine. Not just a suggestion, not just encouragement, but actual medicine for your body. This is why the Word must not be treated casually. It is something to be taken seriously and consistently. Just like physical medicine must be taken regularly to be effective, the Word of God must also be taken in daily for it to produce results in your life.

This truth is further confirmed in another passage:

Psalms 107:20

He sent his word, and healed them, and delivered them from their destructions.

Notice that God did not send something else—He sent His Word. The Word carried the power to heal and to deliver. This shows us that healing is embedded in the Word itself. Wherever the Word goes, it carries the ability to restore, repair, and make whole. That is why neglecting the Word is not a small matter—it is ignoring the very solution God has provided.

So whenever you are sick, what you need is medicine—and according to Scripture, the Word of God is that medicine. The Word has the capacity to heal because everything we see today was created from it. The visible world came from the invisible Word of God. That means the Word has authority over everything it created, including your body. When you take in the Word, you are introducing divine power into your system.

You can “eat” the Word by reading it, meditating on it, speaking it, and believing it. This is how it enters your spirit and begins to work. And you don’t have to wait until you are sick before you take this medicine. You can take the Word consistently to build strength and keep sickness away. Prevention is always better than cure, and the Word of God works both ways.

So now, let me ask you a simple but important question:

How often do you take this medicine?

How frequently do you eat the Word of God?

Because your consistency will determine your results.