Saturday, January 24, 2026

All the Help You Need Is Already in You


One day, God taught me a lesson that settled my constant search for “helpers” and redirected my desires to the right place.

We were in a vigil when the person leading prayers began reading the story of Joseph. Immediately she reached the part where Joseph was called to meet Pharaoh, and God spoke directly to my heart, helping me understand your authority in Christ and realize that true power and guidance come from Him, not from relying on others to pave your way.


He made me understand something profound: what I do for myself is far more important than what anyone else will ever do for me. People are positioned by God not to give you your breakthrough but to lead you into what you have already prepared yourself for.

Stay with me—I want to explain this clearly.

When Joseph was summoned to meet Pharaoh, he was not suddenly equipped with wisdom and insight. He had already developed the ability to communicate effectively and solve national problems. These qualities were not accidental—they were cultivated over years, even while he was in prison. In the same way, what you received when you got born again—gifts, grace, and spiritual insight—must be developed and applied over time to make a real impact in life and ministry.


Now pause and consider this:

What if Joseph had appeared before Pharaoh trembling and unable to speak clearly? What if he had been bold but had no practical solution to offer? The opportunity would have been wasted, and the blessing missed.

Joseph’s usefulness was not dependent on Pharaoh’s invitation—it depended on his preparation. He developed himself long before the moment of recognition arrived. He built skills, character, and insight without knowing if he would ever be released. Yet, he remained diligent, faithful, and consistent.

Child of God, you have authority over life and death, you need to know this. 

This principle applies to every area of life. Your location, circumstance, or current position does not determine your potential. What matters is what you are doing where you are now.

Philippians 1:6 says, “Being confident of this very thing, that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ.” God is faithful to grow what He has planted in you—but you must cooperate by investing in yourself.

Many people today are desperate to find “destiny helpers,” believing their lives will change the moment they meet the right person. Permit me to ask you sincerely:

If a destiny helper appeared today, what value would you bring to the table? Have you developed yourself enough that your uniqueness makes people want to work with you, regardless of what others offer?

For many of us, the real obstacle is emotional and personal immaturity. We struggle with anger, communication, and discernment. Some people have not read a single book from start to finish since leaving school. Many will not even finish reading this post because it feels “too long.” Yet, these are the small disciplines that form the foundation for greatness and help unlock your spiritual authority, allowing you to walk confidently in the power and responsibility God has entrusted to you.


Opportunities are everywhere. They appear daily. But the ones you can recognize and benefit from are the ones you are prepared for.

Proverbs 22:29 reminds us: “Seest thou a man diligent in his business? he shall stand before kings; he shall not stand before mean men.” God honors preparation and diligence. The person who has trained, studied, and built character will naturally attract opportunities.

Here’s the truth: what you do for yourself will always matter more than what anyone else does for you. People may ignore your potential temporarily, but they cannot ignore true value forever.

Increasing your value requires discipline, sacrifice, and self-denial. It is not always comfortable. It demands consistency, patience, and humility. Yet, the payoff is worth it. One day, when the right opportunity arises, you will be ready to step into it confidently and with impact.

Ask yourself honestly:

  • Are you currently in any self-development program?

  • Are you the same person this year as you were last year?

  • What significant changes have you noticed in your life recently?

  • Do you still get angry over the same issues that upset you last year?

  • If your president, boss, or someone influential shared a serious problem with you today, could you contribute meaningfully?

  • Can you solve national or societal problems right now, or are you preparing yourself to do so?

These are difficult questions, but they are necessary. They separate those who wait passively for helpers from those who actively build themselves to be ready for God’s appointments.

Remember, Joseph’s breakthrough did not begin when Pharaoh called—it began in prison, in preparation, in obedience, and in consistency. And your breakthrough will follow the same pattern. Colossians 3:23-24 says, “And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men; Knowing that of the Lord ye shall receive the reward of the inheritance: for ye serve the Lord Christ.”

What you invest in yourself today will pay off tomorrow. So, stop searching for helpers to fix what only preparation can accomplish. Develop your skills, nurture your character, strengthen your spirit, and God will bring the right opportunities, people, and moments to you—at the perfect time.


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Silent Forms of Idolatry Practiced by Christians Today: Mixing Cultural Traditions with Christianity (Part 6)

 

If you have followed this series so far, well done.

We are now in Part 6 of Silent Forms of Idolatry Practiced by Christians Today—idols many people practice unknowingly.

There are heart-probing questions at the end of this discussion. Read to the end and take your time to sincerely answer them.

Many believers miss this—hidden forms of idolatryin modern Christianity explained

Today, we will be discussing how some Christians secretly mix faith with cultural or ancestral practices, often without realizing the spiritual implications.

Once you gave your life to Christ, you became a new creature—a new creation that did not exist before.

Your loyalty is now to Jesus and Jesus alone.

Anything that does not agree with this new life and new culture in Christ should not be imported into it.

If you are born again, it is very important to separate from cultural practices that do not align with Christianity.

Many of these practices are so common that people engage in them without questioning whether they are right or wrong. Let us examine a few.

1. Pouring Libation “Out of Respect”

Do you still pour libation “out of respect” to ancestors?

Some people will not eat yam unless a portion is first offered to the ancestors. Others pour wine or drink on the ground before drinking the rest, claiming it is tradition.

Among unbelievers, this practice is clearly an act of worship to ancestral gods.

So, when a Christian does the same thing, what exactly is the motive?

Are you worshipping a different god—or unknowingly participating in the same ritual?

Calling it “culture” does not change its spiritual meaning.

2. Consulting Witch Doctors—Directly or Indirectly

Some Christians still visit witch doctors to solve certain problems. This is wrong.

Are you saying God is not sufficient to handle your situation?

Others do not go personally, but they contribute money or items to someone else who is going. When you contribute, you are represented in that consultation.

Spiritual compromise remains compromise, even when done indirectly.

Scripture warns us clearly:

“What fellowship hath light with darkness?”

—2 Corinthians 6:14

Mixture weakens faith and dishonors Christ’s finished work.

Attention Reset

Calling a practice “tradition” does not remove its spiritual consequence.

3. Ritual Objects for Protection

Some Christians participate in family rituals for protection.

Others tie small crosses on a baby’s neck or wrist specifically for protection. Many see nothing wrong with this, but this is treating objects as spiritual shields.

God has warned repeatedly against any form of idol worship.

Protection comes from God—not objects, symbols, or rituals.

4. Cultural Views That Dehumanize Women

Many homes today are broken because men import cultural beliefs that treat women as sub-human.

Some cultures believe women should not talk freely, contribute to discussions, or be treated as equals. Women are seen as domestic slaves—cooking, cleaning, bathing children—regardless of exhaustion or circumstance.

Men raised in such cultures may sit comfortably while ordering overworked wives around, even when the man has done nothing all day.

This culture is not Christian.

Do not import it into Christianity.

This is not our culture in Christ.

Screening Culture with Scripture

I may not mention every cultural practice that contradicts Scripture.

But whatever culture you come from, screen it with the Word of God.

If Scripture supports it—keep it.

If Scripture contradicts it—drop it.

Heart-Probing Questions

Answer these honestly to know if you are mixing Christianity with tradition:

If a practice cannot be clearly traced to Scripture, do I still defend it because “this is how we’ve always done it”?

(Reveals whether tradition has replaced truth.)

When Scripture confronts a cultural belief I grew up with, which one do I quietly adjust to fit the other?

(Shows which authority rules my heart.)

Do I fear breaking cultural customs more than I fear disobeying God’s Word?

(Reveals if culture has become an unseen lord.)

Have I ever explained a practice with “it’s our culture” instead of “the Bible says”?

(Shows when culture becomes a spiritual cover.)

If Jesus questioned this practice directly, would I defend it with Scripture—or with elders, history, or tradition?

(Reveals what I believe gives legitimacy.)

In the next lesson, we will be discussing Self as an Idol (Self-Worship) — Part 7 of this series.

See you there.


If this message has spoken to you, here are some related teachings that will help you understand Silent Forms of Idolatry more deeply:

1. Silent Forms of Idolatry Practiced by Christians Today: Trusting God “Plus” Something Else (Part 1)

2. Silent Forms of Idolatry Practiced by Christians Today: Elevating Pastors or Prophets Above Christ (Part 2).

3. Silent Forms of Idolatry Practiced by Christians Today: Ritual Christianity Without Relationship (Part 3).

4. Silent Forms of Idolatry Practiced by Christians Today: Fear-Based Faith (Part 4)

5. Silent Forms of Idolatry Practiced by Christians Today: Money, Success, and Prosperity as Identity (Part 5)

6. Silent Forms of Idolatry Practiced by Christians Today: Self as an Idol (Self-Worship) (Part 7)

7. Silent Forms of Idolatry Practiced by Christians Today: Using Jesus as a Tool Instead of Submitting to Him as Lord (Part 8)

8. Hidden Forms of Idolatry in Modern Christianity: The Subtle Enemies of True Worship

Why You Should Not Believe Every Story You Hear

Let me share a story with you that explains why you should never believe everything you hear about people until you confirm it.

In 2015, I enthusiastically attended a program called Career Right Track. It was a huge blessing. Career Right Track is a program organized by Christ Church to help people seeking employment. Experiences like this also teach us valuable lessons in integrity and humility, showing how to build Godly character through discernment, patience, and honest engagement with others.


During the program, one of the lecturers who taught Use of English gave an illustration I will never forget.

She wrote a sentence on a piece of paper:

“Write to express, not to impress.”

She handed the paper to the first person seated at the front and asked him to read it, memorize it, and then whisper it to the next person in the row. He was instructed to speak in a very low tone so that only the next person could hear him. The exercise highlighted the importance of precision and attention, teaching us how to focus on the right issues rather than getting distracted by irrelevant details.


The first person whispered exactly what he read:

“Write to express, not to impress.”

That person then whispered what he heard to the next person, and the message continued from one person to another. Before the message even reached the second row, it had already changed. Nobody was saying the exact sentence anymore, illustrating how people see things the way they are, often interpreting information through their own perceptions rather than reality.


We were asked to continue until it got to the last person. When the lecturer asked the final person what he heard, he said something completely different from what was originally written.

The words were lost.

The meaning was lost.

This is exactly what happens with information about people.

                                    

By the time a story reaches you, 99.9% of the time the original message has been altered. In many cases, people add their own assumptions because they didn’t fully understand what they heard but still want to say something. This reminds us that not all evidence is telling the truth, so we must verify facts before forming opinions or passing judgment.

That is why many stories we hear about people are false—not necessarily because someone intended to lie, but because the message was distorted along the way.

So whatever you are told about someone, if you have not personally verified it, you may just be listening to a lie. The word and the meaning may have been lost long before it reached you.


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Friday, January 23, 2026

Cast Your Cares on Jesus: How to Overcome Worry and Find True Peace

“Casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you.”
— 1 Peter 5:7 (NKJV)

Sometimes, when we read Bible passages like this, we merely glance at them. We agree with them mentally, nodding our heads, but we do not put them into practice. We like the comfort of knowing the Word, yet we often neglect the power of doing what it says. Truly understanding God in difficult times means applying His Word, trusting His guidance, and acting on His principles even when circumstances challenge us.


Our freedom, our peace, and our safety come not from merely knowing Scripture—but from obeying it. Knowledge without practice leaves us stuck in the same patterns of worry and anxiety that the Word promises to free us from.

When Worry Takes Over

There was a season in my life when worry consumed me. It felt as if I was already living in hell on earth. Every circumstance seemed to work against me. Financially, I felt like I was moving backward instead of forward. Relationships that should have encouraged me left me feeling ignored. I respected someone deeply, yet whenever I greeted him, I received no response. At church, issues in the department I served in affected me personally, and when I reached out to my superior for guidance or support, I was ignored.

These were not small concerns—they were heavy burdens that pressed on my heart day and night. Every attempt to find relief seemed futile. Even when I tried to pray, my mind was crowded with anxieties. The worry blocked my fellowship with God.

Matthew 11:28-30 reminds us: “Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”

Yet, I struggled to find rest because I was holding onto my burdens instead of handing them over. Reflecting on why God allows suffering helps us see that trials are not just obstacles—they are opportunities to surrender, grow, and deepen our trust in Him.



Worry Blocks Fellowship

I realized a painful truth: when we go against God’s instruction by worrying, it blocks our fellowship with Him. Worry is not just a mental burden—it is spiritual disobedience. The Word of God tells us to cast our cares upon Him. If He asks us to do something and we refuse, we are choosing to carry our own load unnecessarily. Reflecting on why God sometimes feels silent helps us understand that His quietness isn’t absence—it’s an invitation to trust, obey, and release control to Him.

Pause and reflect: If God asks you to cast your cares on Him, why are you still holding onto them?


Laying It All at His Feet

That night, during my usual prayer time, I made a decision. I deliberately laid everything at the feet of Jesus. One by one, I brought each worry to Him. I complained as much as I needed to. I poured out my frustrations, fears, and doubts. Then, I made a conscious decision to let go—to hand everything over to Him completely.

Psalm 55:22 says: “Cast thy burden upon the Lord, and he shall sustain thee: he shall never suffer the righteous to be moved.” This verse was no longer just words—it became my reality.

Thank God that He is always ready to listen, no matter how weak we feel or how heavy our burdens. I decided I would not leave His presence still carrying these problems. I knew deep in my heart that continuing to worry about what I had handed over was not only unnecessary—it was futile.

Peace That Surpasses Circumstances

Something amazing happened that night. I left the presence of God as if nothing had gone wrong. The burdens that had weighed me down were gone. Physically, my circumstances had not changed yet—but spiritually and emotionally, I was free. Peace like a river flooded my soul.

Philippians 4:6-7 reminds us: “Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”

From that night on, whenever the enemy tried to bring back those burdens, I would tell him plainly: “I have handed this over to Jesus, and I am not taking it back.” Each time, he left in defeat.

A Simple but Powerful Reminder

One of my uncles, who helped raise me spiritually, often said: “If you die of high blood pressure caused by worry, you won’t go to heaven.” As strong as that statement sounds, the principle behind it is true—worry destroys. It robs us of joy, peace, and health, and it distracts us from God’s purpose.

No matter what challenges you are facing right now, remember: there is nothing you are going through that countless others have not faced before. Jesus is waiting for you to hand over your burdens so that you can experience the rest and peace He promises. It also raises the question: what do you do when you feel God is too slow? The answer is to trust Him, stay faithful, and continue to surrender your worries, knowing His timing is perfect.


A Final Encouragement

Whatever challenge or anxiety you are carrying today, do not hold it alone. Lay it at the feet of Jesus. Cast all your cares upon Him, and trust that He will sustain you. Rest in the knowledge that He cares for you. Let go of worry, and let the peace that surpasses understanding guard your heart and mind.

Isaiah 26:3 assures us: “Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee.”

Hand your worries to Him now. Trust Him, rest in Him, and watch as He transforms your anxiety into peace. You were never meant to carry the weight alone—Jesus is ready, waiting, and more than able to bear it for you.


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Silent Forms of Idolatry Practiced by Christians Today: Money, Success, and Prosperity as Identity (Part 5)

 Many Christians do not bow to carved images, yet they still worship idols—quietly, unintentionally, and convincingly.

One of the most dangerous of these silent idols is money, along with success and prosperity.

In this lesson, we will examine how money can slowly replace God in the heart, how churches and society sometimes reinforce this error, and how to honestly test ourselves to know whether money has become our god.

You may be practicing this without knowing—seehidden forms of idolatry in modern Christianity

Please read to the end. The questions ahead are heart-probing.

When Money Determines Value in the Church

A story was told of a man in church who was never recognised after he graduated from school.

He was not given any responsibility, no position, and no form of recognition. He was still struggling financially, and it appeared he was ignored because he had nothing to offer materially.

He continued applying for jobs and praying that God would answer him.

Eventually, God mercifully gave him a very good job with many benefits.

He returned to church to testify of what God had done. Shortly after, he was suddenly called and appointed as the youth leader.

He left the church immediately.

I do not know whether this story is true or false, but this same pattern exists in many churches today.

When Prosperity Becomes a Measure of Spirituality

Some churches now use financial prosperity as a measure of spirituality, forgetting that the children of Israel had everything they wanted in the wilderness—yet God was not pleased with them.

When material things become our measure of spirituality, we have turned material things into idols.

We begin to honour those who have money and discard those who do not.

Many people have bought their way into leadership positions in church because they have money. Some of these people are agents of darkness holding powerful positions, yet the idol of money blinds us from seeing that they are wrongly placed.

How Money Corrupts Church Leadership

Some people suddenly become the pastor’s favourite because of a large donation they gave.

Now the pastor wants to talk to them, invite them to private meetings, and share sensitive ministry matters with them.

This is one reason the devil has prevailed in many churches. Once he sees that money is loved and worshipped, he sends plenty of it—while stealing what truly matters.

Dirty money begins to pollute everything, and discernment is lost.

Pause and reflect carefully on this. What we celebrate eventually controls us.

The Biblical Warning We Ignore

The Bible warned us clearly:

“What shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his soul?”

Your soul is more valuable than everything money can buy.

When money becomes our idol:

Wealth defines God’s approval

Success becomes proof of righteousness

Faith is reduced to what God can give

Jesus warned plainly:

“Ye cannot serve God and mammon.”

—Matthew 6:24

Anything that competes with God for your loyalty has become an idol—even money.

The Nigerian Reality

In Nigeria today, one reason many young boys go into internet fraud is because money has become our god.

We no longer care how money is made—as long as it is made.

Politicians steal public funds and later do giveaways, and we call them honourable. We praise them and make them feel special for robbing us.

This is how bad it becomes when money becomes a god to a people.

Even in many Nigerian families, the message is simple: just get the money.

As a result, evil practices are increasing—rituals, abuse, sacrifices, and crimes committed purely for money.

It is frightening when a nation worships money. It is worse when Christians do the same.

That would mean there is no longer a difference between light and darkness. God forbid.

Can Money Become Your God Without You Knowing?

Yes, it can.

Examine yourself honestly with these questions:

To what extent can you go to make money?

If a church program clashes with a business opportunity that will pay millions, which would you choose?

If God never increases your income beyond what you earn now, would you still obey Him with the same joy and faithfulness?

What makes you feel more secure—the promises of God or your bank balance?

What command of God do you quietly postpone because obedience would cost you financially?

When money is threatened, what rises first in your heart—prayer or panic?

If gaining more money required compromising truth, integrity, or compassion, how easily would you justify it as “wisdom” or “strategy”?

A Final Warning

You cannot serve God if money is your idol.

You will always place money above spiritual things and eventually trade God for financial benefits.

What Comes Next

In the next lesson, we will discuss mixing cultural traditions with Christianity—another silent idol many people are not even aware of.


If this message has spoken to you, here are some related teachings that will help you understand Silent Forms of Idolatry more deeply:

1. Silent Forms of Idolatry Practiced by Christians Today: Trusting God “Plus” Something Else (Part 1)

2. Silent Forms of Idolatry Practiced by Christians Today: Elevating Pastors or Prophets Above Christ (Part 2).

3. Silent Forms of Idolatry Practiced by Christians Today: Ritual Christianity Without Relationship (Part 3).

4. Silent Forms of Idolatry Practiced by Christians Today: Fear-Based Faith (Part 4)

5. Silent Forms of Idolatry Practiced by Christians Today: Mixing Cultural Traditions with Christianity (Part 6) 

6. Silent Forms of Idolatry Practiced by Christians Today: Self as an Idol (Self-Worship) (Part 7)

7. Silent Forms of Idolatry Practiced by Christians Today: Using Jesus as a Tool Instead of Submitting to Him as Lord (Part 8)

8. Hidden Forms of Idolatry in Modern Christianity: The Subtle Enemies of True Worship

How God Rewards His Servants: Faithfulness and Motive in Christian Service


As teachers, we may think we already know this lesson. Yet, God has consistently laid it on my heart to share it again. There is a reason for that. Many people serve in the house of God, but not everyone truly understands how God rewards His servants. The principles are simple, but they are powerful, and they determine the impact of our service. Understanding Kingdom principles for impactful and effective ministry ensures that our efforts are not just busy work, but meaningful service that honors God and bears lasting fruit.


The Two Grounds for Reward

The Bible shows us that God’s reward is based on two things: faithfulness and motive. Both matter. One without the other is incomplete. You cannot claim a reward if you are faithful in action but your heart is wrong. Likewise, even the purest motive without consistency in service will not fulfill God’s design.

Faithfulness

God rewards faithfulness because He knows an essential truth: He is the one working in us. As Philippians 2:13 says, “For it is God which worketh in you both to will and to do of his good pleasure.”

Faithfulness, therefore, is simply being available for God to work through you. It is not about doing extraordinary things or making a show of your service—it is about showing up and being consistent. John 15:5 reminds us, “I am the vine, ye are the branches… for without me ye can do nothing.”

So what does faithfulness look like in practice in Christ’s church?

  • Attending the anointing service and other gatherings consistently.

  • Being present at your primary assignment when you are needed.

  • Completing the duties expected of you in your assigned role.

If something repeatedly prevents a person from meeting these expectations, then faithfulness is lacking. Pause and reflect: Am I truly faithful, or am I only occasionally available when it suits me? It’s a reminder to be more mindful of the work than the position, focusing on serving well and consistently rather than merely holding a title or status.


Motive

Faithfulness alone is not enough. God also looks at why we do what we do. Our motive is the secret intention of the heart. People may not know why we serve, but God always does. That is why it is important to check ourselves regularly.

Wrong motives to watch out for include:

  1. Working to Be Recognized by Men
    When your service is primarily for human approval, it loses its eternal value. Such people already have their reward—from men. They practice “eye service”: diligent when superiors are present, absent or lazy when they are away.

  2. Working with WIIIFM—“What Is In It For Me”
    Serving God with the expectation of personal gain—financial, material, or otherwise—is a wrong motive. If your expectation comes from God, that is righteous, but working for human benefit is not. Sadly, this mindset is far too common in church work.

  3. Giving God Only Your Leisure Time
    Many people give God the leftover time—the hours reserved for rest and personal comfort. They work hard all week in business but are tired when it is time for ministry. God’s kingdom deserves our best, not our leftovers. Matthew 6:33 reminds us, “But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.” When we prioritize God’s kingdom, everything else falls into place.

As you work for God, remember that no one is Irreplaceable

God Does Not Reward in Vain

It is important to remember that God is a rewarder. He has never called anyone to serve Him without a reward. Isaiah 45:19 says, “I said not unto the seed of Jacob, Seek ye me in vain.”

God honors diligence, faithfulness, and pure motives. The reward may not always be immediate or visible, but it is real and eternal. As a living witness, I can testify that serving with the right heart brings peace, purpose, and divine confirmation. When we are weaned from praise, our service becomes truly about God and His Kingdom, not the applause or recognition of others.


In conclusion, serving in God’s house requires more than just showing up. It requires faithfulness and a pure heart. When your service is consistent and your motive is aligned with God, you position yourself to receive His reward. It may not come from people, but it will come from the One who sees everything.

Let us therefore serve diligently, not for applause or recognition, but for the One who truly matters.


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Thursday, January 22, 2026

Whatever You Don’t Value, You Lose: A Lesson on Respect and Self-Worth


I once had a friend who had a peculiar way of addressing me—two names, actually. One was complimentary, the other derogatory. When I behaved well according to this person’s standards, I was a “Pastor.” But if I fell short in their eyes, I became “Aboki.” It was a strange dynamic, and at first, I tried to navigate it with patience and humor. Thank God Jesus didn’t change Peter’s name every time he messed up (John 1:42). Likewise, God bears with us when we fail, and His grace covers our imperfections, even when others might judge harshly. This reminds us that building Godly character isn’t about perfection in the eyes of people, but about growing in grace and integrity under God’s watchful care.


Over time, however, it became clear that the relationship was beginning to erode. The values that had once held us together were being compromised. I started to notice subtle signs: a lack of respect, diminished communication, and a general disregard for my worth. I realized that if a relationship is built on inconsistency—where you’re celebrated one moment and diminished the next—it will not survive. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 reminds us: “Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up.” In this case, the help and support were inconsistent at best, and I had to make a conscious decision about my next steps.

As a personal practice, I’ve often found that when someone offends me, undervalues me, or looks down on me in a way that affects my spirit, it is better to leave with peace rather than anger. One of the ways I practiced this was by giving a gift before parting ways. The gift served as a symbolic act: it allowed me to leave without carrying bitterness or resentment in my mind. I wanted closure, not conflict. In moments like these, knowing your worth helps you act from a place of dignity rather than emotion, reminding you that your value isn’t defined by how others treat you.

This approach had served me well in the past. So one day, I went to the market, found a beautiful wristwatch, and purchased it specifically for this person. I intended it as a farewell gift, a final gesture that represented respect despite the diminishing value I received in return. But here’s where it gets humorous. In the spirit of honesty—and perhaps a little mischief—I decided to wrap the gift in a very fake, funny, and even ridiculous way. The packaging itself spoke volumes: it was an illustration of the “Aboki” label I had been called. I wasn’t trying to prove myself; the wrapping alone made the statement. Proverbs 22:1 says, “A good name is rather to be chosen than great riches, and loving favour rather than silver and gold.” I realized that my value was not dependent on someone else’s perception; my integrity and intentionality mattered far more.

When I handed over the gift, I observed the reaction immediately. “What kind of gift is this again, this my Aboki friend?” the person exclaimed. I simply smiled and said nothing, knowing that the gesture had already spoken louder than words ever could. This was my way of saying goodbye with dignity, leaving an impression, but not seeking approval. The gift was meant to close the chapter, not reopen it. In moments like these, taking responsibility for your actions means acting with integrity and intention, ensuring that even your departures reflect your character rather than reacting to others’ judgments.


The real surprise came a short while later. After taking the gift home and opening it, the person called me, astonished: “You mean you bought this for me? Ha! This is wonderful. Thank you very much!” I replied simply, “You’re welcome.” That was the extent of the conversation. I felt peace, knowing I had left nothing unresolved on my end.

After giving the gift, I intentionally ended the relationship. She had already shown me that my presence in her life was undervalued. She had even blocked me on WhatsApp before receiving the gift, signaling that she had emotionally disengaged long before I officially walked away. I understood then that attachment alone should never dictate our decisions; being invested in someone who does not recognize your worth only leads to frustration and wasted energy. Matthew 10:14 instructs us, “And whosoever shall not receive you, nor hear your words, when ye depart out of that house or city, shake off the dust of your feet.” Leaving was the right choice.

Interestingly, the gift seemed to stir something within her. I imagined she was reflecting silently, perhaps thinking, “Does this guy really know good things like this?” or “Did he do this out of genuine love?” Her amazement suggested that even small acts of integrity and kindness can awaken awareness and respect—even in those who have undervalued us. Galatians 6:7-8 reminds us, “Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting.” In this case, my intentional sowing of peace, generosity, and dignity bore fruit—even if I no longer had a place in her life. This shows that treating everyone right—regardless of how they treat you—plants seeds of respect and leaves a lasting impact beyond words.


Eventually, she called again, wanting to rekindle the relationship. But by then, I was gone for good. I had learned the hard way that value, respect, and emotional investment must be mutual. If someone does not value you, holding on only prolongs disappointment. Psalm 37:4-5 encourages us: “Delight thyself also in the Lord: and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart. Commit thy way unto the Lord; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass.” I had committed this situation to God, and He confirmed through peace that walking away was the right choice.

The lesson is simple yet profound: whatever you do not value, you will lose. This is true in relationships, work, and even personal pursuits. I am not claiming perfection, but I often wonder why people remain in situations where they are undervalued, allowing emotional attachment to grow, only to realize later that their efforts were never truly appreciated. Proverbs 23:6-7 reminds us: “Eat thou not the bread of him that hath an evil eye, neither desire thou his dainty meats: For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he.”

If someone is not your type, does not bring value, or consistently disrespects your life, it is better to let them go early. Emotional attachment alone should not dictate your decisions. Walking away is not rejection; it is self-respect, wisdom, and obedience to God. As Jesus taught, “No man can serve two masters” (Matthew 6:24). In other words, your heart cannot be divided between being valued and being undervalued—it must be aligned with truth and self-worth.

In the end, leaving allowed me to invest my time and heart into relationships and opportunities that truly mattered. I walked away not with bitterness, but with peace, dignity, and clarity. I left a legacy of intentionality and kindness behind me, knowing that God honors those who honor themselves and walk in integrity.

So the next time someone undervalues you, remember: your peace, your self-respect, and your focus on God matter far more than proving yourself to someone who does not appreciate you. Leave gracefully, give generously, and trust that God will bring people into your life who truly see your worth.


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Silent Forms of Idolatry Practiced by Christians Today: Fear-Based Faith (Part 4)

 Fear is one of the most powerful silent idols in the lives of many Christians today—yet most don’t recognize it.

Many profess faith in Christ, attend church regularly, and even serve in ministry, yet their daily decisions are ruled more by fear than by faith.

As you read this, be sure to answer the probing questions at the end honestly.

They will help you discern whether your faith is truly Christ-based—or fear-based.


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When Fear Exposes Our Belief System

One day, I was walking on the street close to my house. A woman was walking ahead of me.

We approached a junction where sacrifices are often placed. Suddenly, she shouted “Jesus!” and ran far away from the place.

I immediately wondered whether she truly understood the power in the Name she called.

This woman was likely a Christian—possibly even a church worker—yet she feared what should have been afraid of her.

This is not how a child of God is meant to live.

Another Shocking Encounter

Something else happened that deeply surprised me.

A man who identified as a “pastor” was on his way to church, possibly to pray or attend to his duties.

Another man approached him, pretending he wanted to give his life to Christ. The pastor was excited and prepared to pray for him.

Suddenly, the man brought out a pot tied with red cloth and began making phone calls.

He spoke loudly, saying he had found a pastor to use for money rituals and asked whether he should touch him with the pot.

He then attempted to touch the “pastor.”

The pastor ran as fast as he could.

Fear ruled him.

Pause and examine your heart:

What does your reaction to fear reveal about what you truly believe?

When Fear Becomes a God

These two incidents reveal a painful truth: many Christians live in fear.

You may be reading this right now and are afraid to travel home because of “family witches.”

You fear that if you return, something terrible will happen to you.

Indirectly, you are saying a witch is stronger than your God.

You trust the ability of darkness to harm you more than God’s ability to protect you.

This is not biblical Christianity.

When fear dictates your actions more than faith, fear has become your god.

Do not allow fear to sit on the throne of your heart.

What Scripture Clearly Says

“Having spoiled principalities and powers, He made a show of them openly.”

— Colossians 2:15

Christ did not partially defeat darkness.

He completely triumphed over it—publicly and eternally.

When you live in fear of demons, witches, or evil spirits, you are indirectly saying you do not believe in Christ’s victory.

You are confessing—perhaps unconsciously—that the devil is still undefeated.

But he is not.

In Christ, the devil is like a toothless dog—powerless against those who understand their kingdom rights.

A Call to Courageous Faith

Stand up today.

Throw away every form of fear.

Embrace what Christ has already done for you.

And live the victorious life He paid for.

Probing Questions: Examine Your Faith

Let us honestly probe our hearts with these questions:

When danger, sickness, or uncertainty arises, what do you secretly trust for protection before you pray to God?

Is there anything you keep, wear, say, or avoid “just in case,” even though Scripture calls God your sole protector?

If God asked you to destroy every object, practice, or belief linked to ancestral protection, would you obey immediately—or fear what might happen afterward?

Do you believe disobedience to family traditions or ancestral customs will bring misfortune, even when God’s Word says Christ has redeemed you?

In your private thoughts, do you fear spiritual retaliation more than you fear dishonoring God?

What’s Next

In the next discussion, we will examine Money, Success, and Prosperity as Identity.

See you there.


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1. Silent Forms of Idolatry Practiced by Christians Today: Trusting God “Plus” Something Else (Part 1)

2. Silent Forms of Idolatry Practiced by Christians Today: Elevating Pastors or Prophets Above Christ (Part 2).

3. Silent Forms of Idolatry Practiced by Christians Today: Ritual Christianity Without Relationship (Part 3).

4. Silent Forms of Idolatry Practiced by Christians Today: Money, Success, and Prosperity as Identity (Part 5) 

5. Silent Forms of Idolatry Practiced by Christians Today: Mixing Cultural Traditions with Christianity (Part 6) 

6. Silent Forms of Idolatry Practiced by Christians Today: Self as an Idol (Self-Worship) (Part 7)

7. Silent Forms of Idolatry Practiced by Christians Today: Using Jesus as a Tool Instead of Submitting to Him as Lord (Part 8)

8. Hidden Forms of Idolatry in Modern Christianity: The Subtle Enemies of True Worship

What Did You Receive When You Got Born Again?

 

If you ask many Christians this question, most don’t have a clear answer. At best, they might say, “I gave my life to Christ and became born again.” But what else did they receive? Many cannot answer this, which raises the important question: what does it mean to be born again?—to not only receive salvation, but also a new nature, the indwelling of the Holy Spirit, and the authority and inheritance that come with being a child of God.

It’s true that being born again is good news, but do we understand the full package included in it? Most Christians focus almost entirely on the message of sin—how to avoid sin and live a holy life. While this is valid and important for kingdom living, it is not the full picture.

I call the message of sin the “Egyptian” message. Pardon me for using that term, but it will soon make sense.

Before we became born again, we were in “Egypt”—a place ruled by sin. Sin was our master, and we had no power over it. But now we have entered “Canaan,” a place of freedom and victory. The constant message about sin only reminds us what we left behind—how not to live like an “Egyptian,” showing clearly that you must be born again to experience true freedom, victory, and a new life guided by God’s Spirit.

           

Am I saying we should stop preaching against sin? No! Absolutely not! The Bible instructs us not to live in sin after being born again. But here’s the key: there is much more in the Bible about living in Canaan—about the victorious, empowered lifestyle of a new creation—than there is about life in Egypt, showing how a born-again life can transform a man’s life, bringing freedom, purpose, and the power to live according to God’s design rather than being enslaved by sin.


SIN IS NOT THE PROBLEM OF A NEW CREATION MAN.

I know that statement may sound strange to some, but many Christians have a wrong understanding of who they are in Christ. Without knowing what we truly received when we became born again, living the lifestyle of the kingdom becomes difficult, and many end up living in a constant fear of not making heaven—focusing on uncertainty instead of embracing the freedom, authority, and identity God has already given them.


Understanding the total package of being born again is crucial for every New Testament Christian today.

So, let me ask you again: Do you really know what you received when you became born again?

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Wednesday, January 21, 2026

Sound Mind: Exercising Self-Control as a Child of God

Let me share something I learned a few days ago while studying the Bible. It is from a verse that many Christians know very well, yet I realized that I had not fully understood one important part of it until recently.

The verse is 2 Timothy 1:7 (KJV):

“For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.”

I have read this verse many times in the past. Each time I read it, I would focus on the parts about power and love. I understood that God does not want His children to live in fear. Instead, He wants us to live with courage, confidence, and love toward others, showing us how to discover how to renew your mind—by replacing fear, doubt, and negativity with God’s truth, empowering us to think, act, and respond in alignment with His promises.

However, there was one phrase I never really took time to understand deeply. That phrase is “a sound mind.”

For a long time, I assumed that a sound mind simply meant being mentally stable or thinking clearly. But a few days ago, I decided to study the verse more carefully and look at the root meaning of some of the words used in the original language.

When I looked up the deeper meaning of “sound mind,” I discovered something very interesting. The phrase carries the idea of self-control, discipline, and a well-controlled mind.

In simple terms, a sound mind means having control over yourself, teaching us to kill evil thoughts before they kill you—to confront and reject harmful or destructive thoughts immediately, so they do not take root and influence our actions, emotions, or destiny.


When I understood this, it spoke strongly to my spirit.

It made me realize that a sound mind is not only about how we think; it is also about how we control our emotions, our speech, and our actions.

Then a question came to my mind: If I truly have a sound mind, what does that mean for my daily behavior?

It means several things.

If I truly have a sound mind, I cannot become angry at every slight provocation. People may say things that annoy me, but self-control helps me respond calmly instead of reacting impulsively.

If you must maintain a sound mind, you will always learn how to guard your thoughts 

If I truly have a sound mind, I cannot use curse words simply because someone provoked me. My speech should be guided by wisdom, not by sudden bursts of emotion.

If I truly have a sound mind, I cannot hit or fight someone who offends me. Violence and uncontrolled reactions are signs that a person has lost control of their emotions.

If I truly have a sound mind, I cannot quarrel or lose my composure over small matters. A disciplined mind helps a person remain calm even when situations are frustrating.

As these thoughts began to form in my mind, I realized something very important: without self-control, I do not truly have a sound mind.

But then another thought came to me that brought encouragement.

The Bible says God has given us a sound mind.

Notice that the verse does not say we must struggle to obtain it. It says God has already given it to us.

This means that self-control is not something completely outside of us. It is something God has already placed within us as believers, and when we align it with the power of human will, we can actively choose to exercise discipline, make godly decisions, and harness the self-control God has provided in every situation.

However, like many gifts from God, it must be exercised for it to grow stronger.

Just as a person must exercise their body to build physical strength, we must practice self-control in our daily lives for it to become stronger.

Every day gives us opportunities to practice this.

When someone offends you, that is an opportunity to exercise self-control.

When you feel angry or frustrated, that is an opportunity to remember that God has given you a sound mind.

When you feel tempted to react harshly, that is a moment to pause and choose discipline instead.

Self-control does not mean we will never feel emotions. It simply means our emotions do not control our actions.

A person with a sound mind can feel anger, disappointment, or frustration, but they still choose to respond with wisdom.

After reflecting on this truth, I made a personal decision. From now on, I will consciously practice self-control in areas where I have not been doing so before.

Whenever I feel provoked, I will remind myself that God has already given me a sound mind.

Whenever my emotions begin to rise strongly, I will remember that I have the ability, through God’s help, to respond wisely.

I may not be perfect, but I will continue to grow as I apply this truth in my daily life.

And for this lesson, I am grateful.

Thank you, Jesus, for giving me Your Word and for teaching me through it.


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Silent Forms of Idolatry Practiced by Christians Today: Ritual Christianity Without Relationship (Part 3)

Many Christians are very busy with religious activities, yet they lack a personal walk with God.

They attend church regularly, participate in programs, and appear committed—but they have no real relationship with Him.

Some go to church faithfully but do not practice what they are taught. Others hear the Word again and again, yet refuse to obey it.

This is ritual Christianity without relationship.

Many of such people pray only for formality. Deep down, they don’t even expect answers to their prayers.

They pray simply to calm their conscience—to be able to say, “At least I prayed.”

When Language Replaces Transformation

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Some people know Christian language very well, yet there is no transformation in their lives.

There was someone I respected greatly because of how “spiritual” he sounded. Every greeting began with “God bless you,” delivered in a very holy tone.

One day, he came to me asking for money to solve an urgent problem. He promised to return it in two weeks.

I trusted him and gave him the money without asking questions.

Two weeks turned into months.

Months turned into years.

His body language made it clear he had no intention of paying back.

When I later asked for the money, he showed up at my house unannounced—with his wife—begging.

To this day, I still don’t know whether he was begging for forgiveness of the debt or asking for more time.

Because I didn’t want trouble with a “brother” over money, I let it go.

Christianity Without Character

There are many brothers like this—full of beautiful Christian language, yet with no character to support it.

This is a wrong form of Christianity.

I would rather you have no Christian language and have character, than have Christian language without character.

Religion becomes an idol when it replaces relationship.

Playing Church Without Knowing God

Have you ever wondered why many churches create rules and activities that have nothing to do with spiritual growth?

Why fundraisers, bazaars, and unscriptural practices easily enter the church?

It is because many are playing religion without life transformation.

When there is no relationship with God, people stop caring whether what they do is supported by Scripture.

Pause and reflect:

Is your Christian life built on habits—or on a living relationship with God?

God expects us to build a personal relationship with Him because He wants to speak to us personally, as a Father to His children.

He does not want us running around being religious while we don’t even know Him.

If you are reading this now and wondering how to build a relationship with God, we will address that in another post. Please stay tuned.

God addressed this clearly:

“This people draw near to Me with their mouth… but their heart is far from Me.”

— Isaiah 29:13

God desires hearts, not habits.

The Fruits of Religious Christianity

When you relate closely with religious people, you quickly discover that their lives are often no different from those who don’t attend church.

Their lives are still controlled by anger, hatred, unforgiveness, immorality, and selfish ambition.

Many of them operate with the mindset of WII FM — “What Is In It For Me?”

They come to church to make business connections or to gain personal benefits from church positions.

May God not allow you to have serious dealings with such people.

You will begin to wonder if they are truly Christians.

These religious people don’t mind trading God for money.

If cheating, lying, or cutting corners will bring profit at work, they will do it—because they don’t fear God.

They don’t have a relationship with Him.

When Religion Becomes Dangerous

Religious people often don’t understand what it truly means to be born again.

Make them church treasurers and money starts disappearing.

Make them choir leaders and they abuse their positions without fear.

Religious people are dangerous tools in the hands of the devil.

He uses them to frustrate those who genuinely walk with God.

They won’t work, but when others do, they get offended—accusing them of trying to be noticed.

They spread gossip, carry bad news, and are always ready to talk.

When disciplined, they simply move to another church—because to them, worship is only about attending a building.

A Final Call

Don’t be a religious person.

Build a personal relationship with Jesus, and you will never regret it.

In the next part of this discussion, we will consider Fear-Based Faith.

See you there.


If this message has spoken to you, here are some related teachings that will help you understand Silent Forms of Idolatry more deeply:

1. Silent Forms of Idolatry Practiced by Christians Today: Trusting God “Plus” Something Else (Part 1)

2. Silent Forms of Idolatry Practiced by Christians Today: Elevating Pastors or Prophets Above Christ (Part 2).

3. Silent Forms of Idolatry Practiced by Christians Today: Fear-Based Faith (Part 4)

4. Silent Forms of Idolatry Practiced by Christians Today: Money, Success, and Prosperity as Identity (Part 5)

5. Silent Forms of Idolatry Practiced by Christians Today: Mixing Cultural Traditions with Christianity (Part 6)

6. Silent Forms of Idolatry Practiced by Christians Today: Self as an Idol (Self-Worship) (Part 7)

7. Silent Forms of Idolatry Practiced by Christians Today: Using Jesus as a Tool Instead of Submitting to Him as Lord (Part 8)

8. Hidden Forms of Idolatry in Modern Christianity: The Subtle Enemies of True Worship

What I Learned from Sitting Behind the Computer.

 


I work with computers most of the time, and I also use the internet whenever needed. Sitting behind the computer and working online has taught me the importance of one simple word: refresh.

That word might sound very familiar to many of us, but there is a very important lesson I learned from it that I want to share with you, showing how to build Godly character—just as we refresh a computer to restore its functionality, we must continually refresh our hearts and minds through prayer, reflection, and alignment with God’s Word to grow in integrity, patience, and righteousness.

I discovered that when working on a page whose content changes frequently, you must refresh the page as often as possible. If you visit a page in the morning, leave it open, and return in the afternoon, you will still see exactly what was displayed when you left. Nothing will change.

If you are not careful, you may be forced to believe that nothing changed during the time you were away. To confirm whether the content has changed, you must refresh the page to receive the update. If you choose not to refresh, you will remain stuck with outdated information that may no longer be useful.

If you decide to share such outdated information with people who are currently active on that page, they will quickly realize that you are not up to date. Some may laugh, while others may ask if your internet connection is having problems, teaching the importance to take responsibility for your actions—acknowledging mistakes, staying informed, and ensuring that what you share reflects care, accuracy, and accountability.


Now, here is the lesson.

The most dynamic entity in the world is the human being. Humans are constantly changing. Change has become a major part of life, and we often say that the only constant thing in life is change.

As common as change is, many people do not accept it or are unwilling to work with it. How do I know? Keep reading.

You will sometimes see two old friends who had a misunderstanding and stopped relating for a while. When they meet again after a long time, both of them often assume that the other person is still exactly the same as they were in the past, highlighting the importance of being consistent in building desirable character—because who you are today is shaped by your choices and growth, not by past misunderstandings or old perceptions.

Neither of them takes time to “refresh” their memory to discover the present attitude or behavior of the person they have just met. We often relate with people based on who we think they were yesterday. This is why we are quick to judge others and gossip about what they did in the past.

Sadly, some people are still carrying names and labels that no longer describe who they are. Because others refuse to refresh their understanding of them, they continue to call them by identities they have outgrown.

A growing human being will always change, either positively or negatively. Therefore, it is very important to refresh your knowledge about people before concluding about them. Someone may be highly praised today and admired by everyone, yet change negatively tomorrow, teaching us don’t allow daily carry overs—let go of past impressions, judgments, and assumptions, and approach each day and each person with a fresh perspective.

The key lesson is this: always refresh your understanding of people, especially if the last time you related with them was more than two weeks ago, before jumping to conclusions.

If you learned anything from this, share it with someone.

God bless you.


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