How I Found My Life’s Calling Through Writing: My ‘Aha, This Is For Me’ Moment

Have you ever had that moment when something just clicks and you say, “Aha, this is for me”? For some, it’s a job. For others, it’s a hobby or a calling. For me, it was writing — and it didn’t even start perfectly. I didn’t know the rules, I made mistakes, and I even got corrected publicly online. Yet, in that imperfection, I discovered my purpose: to bless people with my words, even while I slept, and more deeply to know your purpose in Christ.

I remember how I started writing. Back then, I didn’t know much about writing at all. There were so many things I didn’t understand — I couldn’t even properly tell the difference between its and it’s. Yet, I wrote anyway.

I even remember using the phrase “at your spare time” in a book title, and someone online corrected me — publicly — that it should have been “in your spare time.” At the time, I was flaunting myself as a writer, and yet I didn’t understand basic English. I took the correction in stride and moved on.

But something happened after that moment that made me say, “Aha, writing is for me.”

Even with such an imperfect write-up, someone read it days later. I could tell when they did, and it made me so happy. I realized that even an imperfect piece of my writing could reach someone, teach them, or bless them — sometimes long after I wrote it, a reminder of how to find your life purpose.

From that point, I wrote more. Any story that came to my mind, I wrote it down. I even wrote about my childhood experiences. Over the years, I stored these write-ups on the writing pad of my phone.

Then, on January 5, 2026, it hit me: I could post these writings online for more people to read. That’s when I started blogging.

I thought about it: if my purpose is to bless people, why not use social media where there are already many people? But then I realized that posts on social media are easily lost or pushed down the feed, while on a blog, people can bookmark a page and revisit it whenever they need it. That’s when I started blogging on a free Blogger website, discovering a kind of competitive advantage.

This blogging journey has been challenging. It takes time, patience, and strategy to make posts searchable organically, so that more people can be blessed by them. This brings me back to the “Aha” moment. I’ve heard of people starting a job and saying, “Aha, this job is for me” — and then excelling at it. Could it be that moments like this — when you see your work resonate with others — are one of the ways people find their purpose in life?

Purpose often doesn’t arrive fully formed — it sneaks in quietly through small, imperfect steps. Sometimes it’s a correction that stings, sometimes it’s a reader who resonates with your words days later. What matters is recognizing those “Aha” moments and leaning into them. For me, writing became more than a hobby — it became a way to touch lives, share lessons, and bless people long after I typed the first word. Maybe that’s what purpose really is: showing up consistently, imperfectly, and letting your impact unfold naturally, and understanding when speed does not make sense.

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You Have Authority Over Life and Death: Biblical Insights and True Stories.

Ignorance is causing more problems in the body of Christ than we realize. Little wonder the Bible says, “My people perish for lack of knowledge.” If we gain the right knowledge about many areas of our lives, the devil automatically loses his power over us in those areas. Sometimes we pray ineffectively because we don’t even know what God’s will is on a particular issue, and this is why it is important to know your spiritual authority.

Take the issue of death, for example. Many Christians believe that God takes people whenever He wants. When someone dies, you often hear people say, “The Lord gives, and the Lord takes.” This mindset gives the devil a free hand to operate as he pleases. He knows that if he kills one of your sons or daughters, you will automatically attribute it to God. He is delighted when you focus on the wrong target and miss the real one, instead of learning to unlock your spiritual authority.

I want to say this clearly: many deaths people experience on earth are not from God. This is why Jesus raised the dead and gave His disciples power to do the same.

You also need to understand that, as a child of God, you have the right to decide who dies around you—let alone your family members. In this post, I will share an experience from my prescience study days in Enugu.

For now, know this: you have the right to decide who dies around you. You also have a right over your own life to decide when to die. If a pastor, spiritual father, or mentor understands this principle and works with it, they can help stop members of their flock or family from dying prematurely.

Of course, this power does not cover people who are not under the spiritual covering of that pastor or father—but I won’t go into that now.

The Prescience Study Story

Let me share what happened during our prescience days in school. Prescience classes were organized for people who wanted to bypass JAMB or who had passed JAMB but wanted early entry. If you passed the prescience class, you were admitted into year one at the university without writing JAMB again.

When we joined the prescience class, we stayed in a hostel called Salem. Most evenings, we held fellowships, praying for the welfare of students and for God’s help to pass our examinations. We continued for a while before some stopped, as naturally many people are not inclined toward spiritual things, forgetting that you have power over demons and the devil.

The fellowship also gave us the opportunity to share the Word of God with our fellow students. During these periods, God helped us exercise dominion over demonic activities around the hostel.

We were told that one person must die in that hostel every school year. No one could explain why it happened, but seasoned residents knew it was a recurring pattern.

As children of God and the light of the world, we decided we wouldn’t be afraid. We prayed and decreed that no one would die during our school year.

The Student Who Survived

Then, something remarkable happened. One student received an admission to study abroad—a huge achievement in Nigeria. Studying abroad meant life would be easier and learning more effective, unlike in Nigerian universities where 1,000 students fight for 300 seats.

This student was overjoyed and began celebrating. But wisdom demands careful celebration, especially when you have opportunities many cannot access. This student, however, came to school and threw a big party, showing off to everyone.

Since he had money, he and his friends drank heavily. What he didn’t know was that someone was quietly plotting against him. One student had planned to use a hammer to kill him without anyone realizing.

When most people were drunk, the attacker called the student aside, pretending to share important information. Then he struck him on the head with a hammer. The hammer got stuck, and part of his brains came out. We all thought he was dead. The boys quickly carried him to the hospital, a moment that deeply reminds us to know your kingdom rights.

But we, the believers, remembered our decree that no one would die in the hostel that year. We came together in prayer and declared that he would not die, no matter the injury.

God is a prayer-answering God. Many times we don’t see results because we don’t know our authority as children of God or what we can believe Him to do.

The student survived. Whether he could still travel abroad is another story, but the point is clear: as children of God, we have authority over life and death, and we can exercise it to get results.

Hezekiah: Negotiating Life

Now, let’s see how people in the Bible exercised authority over life and death.

Hezekiah became very sick, and God told him he would die. Many people today, if told they would die, would believe it’s final. They’d start writing their wills, repenting, and arranging their affairs.

But that’s not what happened with Hezekiah. The Bible says he turned to the wall and began negotiating his death with God. God had to send the prophet back to tell him he would live.

If humans did not have a right to make decisions about life and death, God would not have allowed this in the Bible.

Brothers and sisters, you have the right to decide whether you want to die or stay alive. This applies no matter what sickness or challenge you face. Heaven is waiting on your decision if you are a child of God and your ways are right with Him.

Paul: Choosing Life for Purpose

The second example is Paul:

Philippians 1:23-26 (GNT)

[23] I am pulled in two directions. I want very much to leave this life and be with Christ, which is a far better thing;

[24] but for your sake it is much more important that I remain alive.

[25] I am sure of this, and so I know that I will stay. I will stay on with you all, to add to your progress and joy in the faith,

[26] so that when I am with you again, you will have even more reason to be proud of me in your life in union with Christ Jesus.

Paul made a conscious decision whether to die or live. He faced countless near-death situations but chose life until he completed his work.

The lesson is clear: don’t die until you finish your work.

Paul’s confidence in continuing to live for the benefit of others shows how serious this matter is. You can be 100% sure you won’t die prematurely, regardless of what happens around you.

Some religious people may resist this truth, but I write this with confidence because we have tested it—and it works.

I am not dying yet. I will live until I am satisfied with living.

Your Authority Over Death

You have the power over death to decide whether to live or die. This authority also extends to people you influence, such as your family or those under your spiritual covering.

So, the next time the devil tries to take anyone dear to you, and you know it is not their time, stand firm and say: No!

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Know Your Worth: Why People Value You Differently

A story was once told about a young boy who was curious about his own value. He went to his father and asked a simple yet profound question: “Father, what is my value?” The father looked at him with both love and seriousness and gave him a precious stone, a lesson that would later teach him how to build Godly character. He handed it to the boy and said, “Take this stone and find out its price from different people, but remember, do not sell it. Just find out what people think it is worth.”

Excited and curious, the boy set out on his journey. His first stop was a woman selling akara by the roadside. She was busy frying her food and hardly paid attention when the boy held out the stone. She looked at it briefly and shrugged. In her mind, the stone seemed ordinary. She offered the boy a small amount of money, thinking she was doing him a favor. To her, it was just a piece of rock—she could not see the stone’s true value. The boy was a little disappointed but decided to continue his search.

Next, he went to a man who knew a little about stones. This man examined the gem more carefully and nodded thoughtfully. “Hmm… I think this is somewhat valuable,” he said, and offered a higher amount than the woman. It was still far below the true worth of the stone, but it was a step closer. The boy realized that people’s understanding of value was relative, and that whatever you don’t value you lose. What seemed insignificant to one person could be slightly important to another. Yet, even with this knowledge, they were all still far from recognizing the stone’s true worth.

The boy continued visiting shopkeepers, traders, and random people he met along the way. Some looked at the stone and laughed, saying it was useless. Others nodded politely and offered him tiny amounts of money, thinking they were being generous. He began to feel frustrated. How could the same stone, the same precious gem, be seen in so many different ways? How could its value vary so widely depending on the person evaluating it?

Eventually, the boy arrived at a jewelry expert’s shop. This man had studied stones for many years and could recognize even the most hidden qualities of a gem. The boy held out the stone, and the man’s eyes widened in astonishment. He immediately recognized its true value. “This is extraordinary!” he exclaimed. “I must have it! I will give you everything I can to own this stone.” He offered a huge amount of money—far more than anything the boy had been offered before. The boy was amazed. Here, finally, someone truly understood the worth of what he carried, and he also learned to take responsibility for your actions in handling what had been entrusted to him.

The lesson was clear: people price you based on the value they place on you, and that value is often determined by their knowledge and perspective. Not everyone can recognize your true worth. Some will underestimate you, some may overestimate you, but that does not change your intrinsic value. You remain precious, rare, and significant, no matter what others think.

It is easy to feel discouraged when people fail to see your potential. You may work hard, create value, or offer great skills, yet some people around you may fail to appreciate your efforts. Perhaps they overlook your talents, dismiss your contributions, or underestimate your character. But this is not a reflection of your real worth—it is simply a reflection of their perspective, experience, and understanding.

This story also teaches us patience and perseverance. The boy did not force the stone on anyone. He did not change the stone to suit the people who undervalued it. He simply kept moving. And eventually, he found the right audience—the person who could recognize the true worth of the gem. In life, the same principle applies to your own value. You may meet people who fail to recognize your potential or overlook your talents, but that does not mean your value has diminished. Keep moving. Keep striving. Keep growing. One day, the right people will come into your life, people who understand you, appreciate you, and recognize your worth.

Another important lesson is that your value does not fluctuate based on others’ opinions. One stone—same value. Different prices. Similarly, your value as a person, as a professional, as a creative, or as a believer does not change because someone else fails to see it. Their opinion is merely that—an opinion. Your worth is inherent, built into who you are and what you carry. Do not let temporary judgments make you question your own potential, and in the process, always treat people right. 

In a world where comparison and judgment are common, it is easy to feel inadequate when others fail to see what you offer. Some may even criticize you, ignore you, or attempt to belittle your abilities. But remember the lesson of the boy and the stone. Not everyone has the capacity to recognize value. Your responsibility is not to convince everyone or to bend yourself to meet the approval of those who cannot see. Your responsibility is to continue growing, improving, and offering your value to the world.

When you finally connect with those who truly understand your worth, your efforts will be recognized. Doors will open, opportunities will arise, and the respect you deserve will naturally follow. It may take time, but the journey is worth it. Even the boy had to go through several encounters before reaching the right person. Similarly, your path may be long, but patience and persistence are essential.

In conclusion, remember this: the same gem can receive different prices because people see it differently. The same is true for you. Know your worth. Value yourself. Do not let temporary judgments define who you are. Keep moving. Keep offering your best to the world. And eventually, you will meet people who recognize your true value and treat you with the importance and respect you deserve.

One stone. Different prices. Same value. Always know your worth.

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Why Women Should Get Their Husband’s or Father’s Consent Before Making a Vow

 

Introduction

There was a time when only the priest or pastor read the Bible, and whatever they said was accepted without question. Today, something similar is creeping back: many Christians no longer read their Bible for themselves and rely solely on what a man of God tells them, a pattern that can even affect areas like building a marriage based on kingdom principles if not corrected. 

The danger here is that blind reliance can lead people astray, and even sincere intentions can become misdirected. One area where this becomes especially critical is vows—promises made by women to God, often without understanding God’s principles of authority.

In this post, we will explore what the Bible says about vows, the role of a husband or father in confirming or canceling them, and why understanding this principle can protect both spiritual blessings and family harmony.

God Recognizes Authority Over Women

God recognizes that a woman may have an authority figure in her life—her father or her husband. Whenever a woman makes a vow or promise to God, He expects it to be with the agreement of her father or husband.

Numbers 30:13 (NKJV)

“Every vow and every binding oath to afflict her soul, her husband may confirm it, or her husband may make it void.”

This means that whenever a woman makes a vow, the husband or father has the authority to allow the vow or cancel it. If the man hears about the vow and disagrees, the vow is canceled. The woman should not continue with it. In this case, God does not hold the woman responsible, showing that deception does not invalidate marriage.

Yes, God expects us to fulfill our vows, but when the husband nullifies it, it’s as if the vow was never made. God, in His goodness, will not hold anyone accountable—the man nor the woman.

Practical Example: Vows to the Church

Let’s say a woman goes to church and vows to give money, a car, or some family belongings. If her husband does not support this, the promise is canceled.

God does not expect the woman to quarrel with her husband, accusing him of being stingy or working against God. If the man says no, God will not stop the woman’s blessings, because He sees her heart. The issue is simply that the promise was not made correctly.

God values harmony at home. When a husband and wife are not in agreement but try to carry out God’s work independently, it does not please Him. God wants unity and oneness in the family first, then collective work for His kingdom.

Respecting Authority Before Making a Vow

As a woman, before you promise the church money, a car, or anything else, confirm with the man in your life first. Even if you are giving to a pastor, let your husband know before you go ahead.

We have seen cases where a woman gave a pastor a car without her husband’s knowledge. When the husband heard about it, he went to the pastor and reclaimed the gift. In this situation, the man is not wrong, and God supports him because the woman acted outside the proper authority, a situation that can also expose insecurity in marriage.

When a Husband Can Be Held Accountable

There are cases where the man can be held accountable.

Numbers 30:15 (NKJV)

“But if he does make them void after he has heard them, then he shall bear her guilt.”

This applies when the man hears about a vow, ignores it, and then cancels it later. Whatever reason he delayed action, he becomes guilty for canceling the vow after the fact.

God expects the man to act immediately when he hears about a vow if he disagrees—not to wait until later.

Why Secret Vows Don’t Work

Some women might think, “If my husband will oppose my vow, I’ll do it secretly.”

Here’s what you need to know: whether you make a vow secretly or publicly, your husband can cancel it as soon as he hears about it. Even if he hears about it after 100 days, and disagrees, the vow is canceled before God.

Before men, you might feel good that you’ve fulfilled a vow, but before God, it’s as if you never made it. The blessing or reward for that vow is canceled, which can reflect deeper issues and even explain why marriages lose their sweetness when alignment and understanding are missing.

Even if the man never becomes aware that the woman made a vow, and she is living under the authority of her father or husband, God still knows. And if she proceeds without proper consent, she is acting in disobedience—and that will not help her in any way.

Trying to gain favor with humans while ignoring God’s authority is not worth it. Doing so puts you in rebellion against God because you are going against the authority He placed over you.

Submission Leads to Blessing

Yes, I understand that many women may resist submission for personal reasons. But the best place to be is in submission. When a woman respects God’s authority through her husband or father, blessings are delivered more easily because heaven does not see her as a rebel.

The next time you see a woman making a vow in church or to a man of God, kindly ask: “Is your husband aware of what you want to do?”

For women who are not living with their fathers or are unmarried, the situation is different—they make decisions independently.

Conclusion

Making a vow to God is a serious and sacred act—but it must be done within the authority and structure God has established. For a woman, this means seeking the consent of her husband or father when making promises that involve family resources or commitments.

Respecting this authority does not limit your faith or devotion; rather, it aligns your actions with God’s order, preserves unity at home, and ensures your blessings are not inadvertently canceled.

So, before making any vow—whether to give money, property, or anything else—remember to confirm it with the man in your life. Doing so honors God, protects your promises, and keeps you walking in both faith and wisdom.

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Wrap Yourself in the Word: The Power of a Life Regulated by God’s Word

This was impressed strongly in my spirit, and I want to share it with you. There are broadly two kinds of people on earth, and understanding this distinction is very important, especially when it comes to building a strong, lasting relationship with God. It shapes how we see life, how we respond to situations, and ultimately what outcomes we experience. Many people move through life without realizing which category they fall into.

The two kinds of people are these: those whose lives are controlled and regulated by the Word, and those whose lives are not regulated by the Word. This difference is not always visible outwardly at first, but over time, it becomes very clear. The direction of a person’s life is deeply tied to what governs them internally.

There is a sequence of what happens to those whose lives are regulated by the Word, and we can understand it clearly through the life of Jesus. But before we go into that, let this truth be settled in your spirit: when a life is regulated by the Word, nothing happens accidentally or outside the Word. Everything aligns, whether seen or unseen.

Jesus is the perfect example of a life that was 100% regulated by the Word. When you read the Scriptures carefully, you will notice that everything He did was in accordance with what had already been written. Even the things that happened to Him—especially those outside His immediate control—still aligned perfectly with the Word, revealing the power of the Word of God.

Consider what happened during His crucifixion. Jesus was crucified between two thieves, one on His left and the other on His right. The Jews did not want the bodies to remain on the cross during the Sabbath, which was a significant feast day. Because of this, the soldiers decided to hasten the death of those crucified by breaking their legs so they could be taken down quickly.

John 19:32–33 (GNT) says, “So the soldiers went and broke the legs of the first man and then of the other man who had been crucified with Jesus. But when they came to Jesus, they saw that he was already dead, so they did not break his legs.” This is very striking when you think about it. They broke the legs of the first man, skipped Jesus, and then broke the legs of the third man—even though Jesus was the second person in line.

The question is: why did they skip Him? It was not random. It was not coincidence. It was because a Scripture had to be fulfilled. Psalm 34:20 (GNT) says, “The Lord preserves them completely; not one of their bones is broken.” Because Jesus’ life was fully aligned with the Word, God ensured that even in death, that Word was fulfilled—revealing how neglecting the Word can lead to spiritual anorexia.

This shows us something powerful: the Word of God has the ability to preserve a man and bring itself to fulfillment in his life. It is not just instruction—it is active and effective. When a person aligns with the Word, the Word begins to take responsibility for outcomes in that person’s life.

This should give you great confidence in the Word of God. It means that when you tie your life to the Word, Heaven ensures that the Word comes to pass in your life—whether you are consciously aware of it or not. Jesus did not know at that moment that soldiers were about to break legs, yet God ensured that His Word stood firm.

Isaiah 55:11 (GNT) says, “So also will be the word that I speak—it will not fail to do what I plan for it; it will do everything I send it to do.” The Word of God cannot fail. It does not try—it accomplishes. It does not attempt—it performs exactly what it was sent to do.

When a life is wrapped up in the Word, things stop happening randomly. Even when situations appear chaotic, there is an unseen order governing everything. Evil may fall on the left and on the right, but it will not come near the one whose life is regulated by the Word. There is a covering that comes from alignment, and avoiding hindrances to effective personal relationship with God is part of what keeps that alignment strong.

There are people God has preserved from danger without them even knowing it. Not because they were careful, but because their lives were tied to the Word. The Word was silently working, ensuring that what was written concerning them was upheld. That is the power of a life governed by Scripture.

So here is the assurance we have: the Word of God cannot fail. You can wrap your life in it and be confident that it will stand. When your life is regulated by Scripture, Heaven backs that Word and brings it to pass in your life. This is not theory—it is a spiritual reality.

WRAP YOURSELF IN THE WORD.

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Does God Still Speak Today? 5 Powerful Ways God Speaks to Us

Let’s talk about whether God still speaks today, because many people feel He spoke in times past but does not speak anymore. This belief has shaped how many approach their walk with God, often limiting their expectation of hearing from Him. But when we say God spoke before and does not speak now, we are indirectly saying that God has changed. That conclusion is dangerous because it contradicts Scripture and undermines Kingdom principles for effective ministry.

Malachi 3:6 (KJV) says, “For I am the LORD, I change not; therefore ye sons of Jacob are not consumed.” If God spoke in times past, then He still speaks today. The ways He communicated with people in the Bible have not been discontinued. They are still active. The real issue is not whether God is speaking—it is whether we recognize and respond to how He speaks.

Here are the various ways God spoke to men that He still uses today. These are not new methods; they are the same channels seen throughout Scripture. When we understand them, we position ourselves better to hear from Him clearly and consistently in our daily lives, including how God speaks through dreams.

1. God Speaks Through His Written Word

Whenever you read the Scriptures, you are hearing from God. He has already written down His Word to guide you in the affairs of life, and that Word remains relevant today. Many people are waiting for a supernatural encounter, yet they ignore the Bible sitting in their hands. The written Word is not just information—it is God’s voice preserved for you.

God is still speaking through His Word every day. The question is whether you are giving it attention. If you neglect the Scriptures, you may feel like God is silent, when in reality, He has already spoken extensively. Learning to engage with the Word is one of the most reliable ways to hear from God.

2. God Speaks Through the Holy Spirit

When Jesus left, He sent us a Comforter who would remain with us forever. John 14:16 (KJV) says, “And I will pray the Father, and he shall give you another Comforter, that he may abide with you for ever.” This Comforter is the Holy Spirit, and He plays a central role in how God speaks to us today.

The Holy Spirit guides, teaches, corrects, and reminds us of God’s Word. If you are born again, He lives inside you and communicates with you daily. Many people are looking outward for direction, not realizing that God has already placed His voice within them. Learning to listen to the Holy Spirit is key to walking with God effectively, including how God speaks through your spirit.

3. God Speaks Through Our Conscience

This is one of the most common ways God speaks, yet many people overlook it because it feels too ordinary. When a person is not born again, the conscience may not lead correctly. But for a believer, the conscience becomes sensitive to God’s leading and can serve as a guide.

That inner check, that quiet warning, that gentle nudge you feel—those moments are not random. God often sits on your conscience to communicate more than you realize. If you learn to pay attention to it and not ignore it, you will begin to notice how frequently God is actually speaking to you.

4. God Uses People to Speak to Us

God also speaks through people. He may use your pastor, your spiritual father, a friend, or even a stranger you meet unexpectedly. This is why we should never despise people or dismiss their words carelessly. God can choose anyone as a vessel at any time.

If you are spiritually sensitive, you will begin to recognize when a message is beyond the person speaking. Sometimes, a simple conversation carries a deeper meaning. God knows how to reach you, and He often does so through others in ways you may not initially expect.

5. God Speaks Through an Audible Voice

There are also times when God speaks through an audible voice. While this may not be common for everyone, it is still a valid way God communicates. The challenge many people have is knowing whether it is truly God speaking.

You recognize God’s voice through relationship. Just like you recognize your earthly father’s voice because of repeated interaction, you come to recognize God’s voice by spending time with Him. Through prayer, study, and meditation, His voice becomes clearer and more familiar over time.

Read my personal story here. 

Conclusion

Yes, God still speaks today. He has not stopped, and He has not changed. If you want God to speak to you, start with what is already available. Pick up your Bible and read it. Build your relationship with Him intentionally and consistently.

As you grow closer to God, His voice will become clearer to you. You will begin to recognize Him in ways you may not have before. God is still speaking. The real question is: are you listening?

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Correcting in Love or Anger? A Lesson for a Church Leader.

 

I watched something online recently, and it reminded me of an experience I would like to share. But before I explain what I watched, let me begin with the personal experience itself. I am someone who believes that sickness should not easily stop me from going to church, holding firmly to Biblical leadership principles of discipline and commitment. One day, I was not feeling well, yet there was a church program I did not want to miss. Despite how I felt, I stood up, took my bike, and went to church.

At that moment, I did not consider whether I would be strong enough to sit through the entire service. I did not try to calculate my strength or predict how the service would go for me. My focus was simple—I just wanted to get there. Whatever happened afterward, I decided to leave it in God’s hands. And by God’s grace, I returned home healed. That experience stayed with me as a reminder of faith and commitment.

Now, let me share what I watched online. A man of God was preaching on the altar and noticed a young man sleeping during the service. Without trying to understand why the young man was sleeping, he stopped his message and began to scold him publicly. From his tone, it was clear that he was angry. He expressed frustration, saying he was sacrificing so much, yet people came to church only to sleep. He said several things that, in that moment, felt unnecessary, reminding me of the teacher who closed his eyes.

Then he made a statement that made me stop watching. He said he was there to show them Jesus. That statement caused me to pause and reflect deeply. I began to ask myself some questions: would Jesus respond with anger because someone was sleeping while He was teaching? Would He not first try to understand what was happening with that person? Was Jesus not always in control of His emotions? And does the Bible not teach us to put away anger? These questions stayed with me long after I stopped the video.

This is not about judging the man of God. It is about reminding ourselves that anyone who stands on the altar must be extremely careful in how they respond to situations. Leadership, especially spiritual leadership, carries a weight that goes beyond words. People are not only listening to what you say—they are watching how you respond.

When you are on the altar, the spotlight is already on you. Every action is magnified, and every response carries influence. What you do in those moments can either build people up or break something within them. If you are leading others, you must be intentional about your words, your tone, and your reactions, and always focus on the right issues.

Our generation is a very unique one. The man of God may have said many meaningful and impactful things that day, but people chose to focus on that single moment of anger. They cut out that part, shared it widely, and ignored everything else. In the end, that one reaction overshadowed all the good that may have been said. This is the reality of the times we live in—one moment can define an entire message.

As I read through the comment section, I noticed something else. Many people do not understand the difference between correcting in love and correcting in anger. This explains why some parents discipline their children repeatedly, yet the children learn nothing. Correction given in anger often fails to produce understanding. Instead, it creates distance, resentment, or confusion.

Now imagine if that young man was like me—someone who refuses to stay at home even when sick, determined to be in church no matter the condition. If he happened to fall asleep because he was unwell, would that kind of public correction encourage him to return again? Or would it push him away completely? In many cases, it could discourage him deeply, unless God personally strengthens his heart, highlighting the need to treat everyone right.

And beyond him, what message did others receive from that moment? Sometimes, the way we respond to one person teaches something to everyone watching. People may not remember everything you preached, but they will remember how you made someone feel in a vulnerable moment. That is why wisdom is essential in leadership.

Moments of anger can undo what took years to build. A single reaction, if not controlled, can damage trust, weaken influence, and leave lasting impressions. That is why we must be careful. May God help us not to destroy in a few seconds what we have spent days, months, or years building.

May we learn to correct in love. May we respond with wisdom, even in difficult moments. May our actions consistently reflect Christ, not just our words. And may everything we do point people back to Him. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

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Why Does God Sometimes Feel Silent?:4 Reasons You Should Know

This question is an important one, and it often confuses people, making them feel like God is no longer with them. Understanding this can strengthen your walk with God and help you rely more on His guidance, showing you how to experience God in your darkest moments.

There are a few reasons why God may seem silent:

1. When God has already spoken and is leading you through the process

God is not a parrot — He does not speak all the time. He speaks when there is a need for direction or instruction. Once He has given you instructions, He may keep quiet until the next step requires guidance.

We see this in the lives of Joseph and Samuel. God gave Joseph a dream about what he would become, and then quietly led him through His plan. Even when Joseph was in the pit, it may have seemed God was silent, but He was working behind the scenes to train Joseph for what was to come, raising the question: what do you do when it seems God is delaying?

Similarly, God often doesn’t reveal the full picture of His plan, as seen with Samuel being sent to anoint a king without knowing which son of Jesse would be chosen. God wants us to walk by faith.

2. God keeps quiet to mature us

When many of us are new in the faith, our prayers are answered quickly to build confidence. As we grow, God expects us to take responsibility for learning and applying His ways.

For example, as a new believer, someone else’s prayer might bring healing, but as you grow, God wants you to know your authority and take your healing in faith. Sometimes His silence is a way to train us to grow in knowledge, wisdom, and faith, helping us understand why God allows suffering.

3. God keeps quiet to see if you love Him for who He is or what He gives

Over time, we may grow attached to God’s blessings rather than God Himself. God’s delays test our hearts: do we seek Him for His presence or only for what He provides?

Remember His question to Peter, and it applies to all of us: “Lovest thou me more than these?” God’s silence helps reveal the depth of our love for Him.

4. God keeps quiet as part of a process of training

Sometimes, God’s silence is His way of shaping us. You may be praying for something, yet His answer is delayed because He is teaching you patience, contentment, or a lesson you need to learn.

For example, you wake up asking God not to allow your spouse to provoke you, yet by the end of the morning, they’ve provoked you three times. This is not a denial of your prayer — God is using the situation to train you to control anger, respond differently, and grow spiritually. Once the lesson is learned, God’s responses may start coming more favorably, teaching you how to cast all your cares on Jesus.

Many times, God uses circumstances and people around us to refine us.

Conclusion:

God’s silence does not mean He is absent. Whether He is guiding you quietly, helping you mature, testing your heart, or training you, each silence has a purpose. Recognizing these patterns helps you trust Him more deeply.

If you have experienced God’s silence in your life, what do you think He was teaching you? Share your thoughts in the comments.

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When God Delays: Lessons from Lazarus in John 11.

John 11:5–6 (GNT) says, “Jesus loved Martha and her sister and Lazarus. Yet when he received the news that Lazarus was sick, he stayed where he was for two more days.” This passage has always troubled me whenever I read it. Each time I come across it, many questions rise in my heart, and sometimes I do not immediately have answers to them. It presents a situation that challenges natural human understanding, and calls for understanding God in difficult times.

How can the Bible clearly state that Jesus loved Lazarus, yet when He heard that Lazarus was sick, He delayed for two more days? Should He not have stood up immediately and rushed to him? Was He too occupied, or did He consider what He was doing more important than going to help someone He loved? If I am being honest, if I had been there watching this unfold, I might have concluded that Jesus did not truly love Lazarus. It would have looked like a contradiction—love expressed in words but not demonstrated in action.

This question becomes even more difficult when you think about the seriousness of the situation. How do you wait when someone you love is sick to the point of death? How do you delay when time is clearly not on their side? These are the kinds of questions that arise when we try to interpret divine actions through human reasoning, and they reveal why God’s will does not always bring instant victory. And in many ways, this same situation plays out in our lives today.

Many of us are currently facing situations that require urgent attention. We cry out to God, believing that He is loving and able to intervene. Some have fasted and prayed for years over a particular issue. Some spend nights in tears, asking God to step in and change their situation. Yet, despite all this, it sometimes feels as though heaven is silent.

At such moments, difficult questions begin to surface. Does God truly love me? Does He really do what His Word says? Will He ever show up in my situation? As time goes on and nothing seems to change, discouragement can begin to set in. We start to feel that if God does not act now, it may already be too late.

However, there is an important truth we must come to terms with: God’s timing is different from ours. What looks like delay from our perspective is not delay in God’s plan. Sometimes, what feels like silence is actually preparation, and in those moments, when disappointment is mercy, we begin to see that God is working beyond what we can understand. When you are within God’s purpose, what appears to be a delay can eventually turn into a blessing that you could not have produced on your own.

Before Lazarus died, Jesus made a statement in John 11:4 (GNT): “This has happened in order to bring glory to God, and it will be the means by which the Son of God will receive glory.” From this, we can begin to understand that there was a deeper purpose behind the delay. It was not neglect. It was intentional. It was part of a larger plan that would reveal something greater.

The first reason we can see is that God wants the glory. Sometimes God allows delay because He intends to display a greater level of His power. If Jesus had healed Lazarus immediately, it would have been another healing miracle among many others. But because He delayed, Lazarus was raised from the dead after four days. The outcome was far more impactful, and the glory that followed was undeniable. The delay created the opportunity for a greater demonstration of God’s power.

The second reason is that God also desires to bring you into a place of honor. The miracle did not only glorify God—it also elevated Lazarus in a way that could not be ignored. Sometimes, God delays because He wants to announce you in a special way. He wants to do something so significant in your life that it draws attention to His work in you. What may feel like abandonment could actually be a carefully arranged divine moment.

So if you have been praying, fasting, and crying, and it seems like God is not responding, hold on to this truth. Delay does not mean denial. Silence does not mean absence. Waiting does not mean rejection. What you are experiencing may be part of a process that is a necessary evil, preparing a greater testimony—for God’s glory and for your upliftment.

Whenever you experience prolonged delay, remind yourself of this: God wants the glory, and He also wants you to share in the honor. Stay encouraged even when it is difficult. Stay trusting even when answers are not immediate. Stay motivated, knowing that God is still at work behind the scenes. The God who waited two days is still the God who raises the dead.

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The Secret to Fruitfulness: Why Praise Must Not Be Ignored.

 

Thank God for today’s Open Heavens devotional (18/02/26), which talked about the secret to fruitfulness.

Our father in the Lord shared that the secret to fruitfulness is praising God. The previous day explained what praise is all about, and it was powerful. If you have not read it, please go back and read it, as it lays the foundation for understanding Kingdom principles for effective ministry.

The devotional also highlighted the importance of praise in the church. He mentioned that many people do not see praise as an important part of the service because they often come to church late. That statement made me reflect deeply. If a person is truly alive and serving God, the praise session in church should be one of the most important parts of the service.

For me personally, there are two very important parts of any service where I do not want to be distracted: during praise and during the message. If I miss either of these, I feel as though I did not truly attend church that day, knowing that God rewards His servant who engages wholeheartedly in His presence.

I cannot fully explain how I feel during praise, but I know I enjoy it deeply — especially when it is Spirit-filled praise. Praise that glorifies God and not self.

Last Sunday, as I was going into church, I noticed some people standing outside while praise was going on. They were not connecting with it at all. I found myself wondering, Do they realize praise is going on? Do they know how much blessing flows during praise? I get blessed a lot during praise, so I do not want to miss it, understanding that the reason preaching matters is to bring hearts into alignment with God’s presence and receive His blessings.

There are also people who fall asleep when worship becomes slow, and I am often surprised at how someone can sleep in such an atmosphere.

No matter how heavy my eyes may be with sleep, there are certain songs that, once sung, the sleep disappears instantly. Personally, I believe that it is during praise and during the ministration of the Word that God blesses His people the most. I believe those are moments when God releases the desires of hearts. This makes me ask: Are you weaned from praise?               

Let us learn to value the time of praise. If praise is truly the secret to fruitfulness, then it should never be treated as a casual or optional part of the service. Let us give praise the honor it deserves.

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Healing Is the Children’s Bread: Why Are You Still Hungry?

A father provided all the food his son would ever need and told him to eat whenever he was hungry. The provision was complete, sufficient, and always available. There was no shortage, no delay, and no condition attached to it. All the child needed to do was take the food and eat. The father had already done his part fully, showing that faith and obedience unlock divine miracles when we receive what has already been provided.

One day, the child became hungry. But instead of taking the food that had already been provided, he began to cry. Days passed, and he continued to suffer hunger while complaining to his father that he was starving. The father kept telling him, “Take the food and eat.” Yet the child refused. Instead of accepting what was already available, he went around searching for other things that might satisfy his hunger—but nothing worked. The hunger remained.

Now pause for a moment and ask yourself: does this sound familiar? This simple illustration reflects something deeper that happens in real life. It mirrors a pattern that many people fall into without realizing it. Sometimes, the problem is not the absence of provision, but the refusal to receive what has already been provided, and in that hesitation, your healing could be stolen.

This is exactly what many believers do when they are sick. God has already made provision for healing, yet many act as though nothing has been done. Scripture refers to healing as the children’s bread—something already prepared and made available. It is not something God is trying to create or decide upon in the moment. The provision already exists.

However, when sickness comes, many Christians respond differently. Instead of taking hold of what has been provided, they cry and beg God to come and heal them—as if He has not already made healing available. Some run everywhere else first, seeking solutions in every direction. Others exhaust all possible options before remembering the power in the Word of God and the healing He has already provided.

In many cases, people only turn to God’s provision after they have spent much and nothing seems to work. Yet the truth remains the same: the provision was there from the beginning. Just like the food in the father’s house, healing has already been made available. The issue is not availability—it is reception.

If you are sick, it is important to understand this clearly: there is already a provision for healing. This is not something distant or uncertain. Just as food satisfies hunger when it is eaten, healing manifests when it is received in faith. Provision alone is not enough—it must be accepted and acted upon.

The bread is already available. It has been prepared and made accessible. The question is not whether God will provide, but whether you will receive what has already been given. Many times, the difference lies in that simple but powerful decision to say what you want to see.

So reach out in faith. Receive what has been made available to you. Feed on it with understanding and conviction. And as you do, you will be strengthened.

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When Forgiveness Is Difficult: What to Do When the Pain Is Deep.

In our previous post, we discussed the signs of unforgiveness. If you have not read it, you can go back and read it first so you have the full context. Today, we want to go a step deeper into something more personal and often more difficult. What do you do when forgiveness feels almost impossible? When the pain is heavy and your heart is struggling under the weight of what happened, how do you truly let go, while still honoring God’s principles for healthy relationships?

Let me share a personal experience that may help bring clarity to this. In my first year at school, I secured accommodation in a wooden house—a simple structure built mainly with wood. We lived there for almost a year, and everything seemed normal at first. However, armed robbers frequently broke into our apartment to steal our belongings. Because of this constant threat, we decided to spend our nights at school, reading and sometimes sleeping there just to have peace of mind.

One day, we returned home and found the house on fire, and this happened very close to our exam period. Everything I had was burnt. I had bought a new suit that I had not even worn yet—it was gone. All my textbooks were destroyed except the one I had taken with me to class that night. In a moment, everything I owned disappeared, and I was left trying to piece things together during one of the most critical times of the academic year.

I temporarily moved in with three friends while searching for another accommodation. Two of them were in the same faculty as I was, so we shared textbooks since we were still in year one. During exam week, I needed a book to study, and one of my friends was not using his at that moment. So I asked if I could read it. Instead of a simple response, he made a very nasty statement—one I do not even want to repeat. That moment broke me even more. It felt like everything was collapsing at once, and I realized firsthand some of the 10 signs you have not forgiven.

After that, unforgiveness began to build heavily inside me. I found myself in an internal struggle, constantly asking whether I should forgive him or hold on to the hurt. Even when I decided that I wanted to forgive, the pain was so strong that letting go did not come easily. It was not just about the words he said—it was about the timing, the condition I was in, and how deeply it affected me emotionally.

So I had to find a way forward, and this is what helped me. Every day, I made a conscious decision and backed it up with action. I would call his name and say out loud, “I forgive you for the offence against me.” I did this repeatedly, day after day. At first, the words felt mechanical and empty, as though I was just going through the motions. But I continued anyway.

Gradually, something began to shift inside me. The more I spoke those words, the more my heart began to respond. It was not immediate, and it was not dramatic, but it was real. One day, I noticed that the bitterness was no longer there. The weight had lifted, and my heart felt free. That was when I knew I had truly forgiven him. This taught me an important lesson: sometimes forgiveness is not a one-time emotional event. Sometimes it is a decision you reinforce daily until your heart aligns with that decision, showing how to walk in love.

This brings us to another important question: should you forgive someone who has not asked for forgiveness? In my opinion, forgiveness is not primarily for the person who offended you—it is for you. Someone once described unforgiveness as drinking poison and expecting the other person to suffer. In reality, unforgiveness damages you far more than the person you are holding in your heart.

Unforgiveness can hinder your blessings and affect your prayer life. Scripture makes it clear that forgiveness and answered prayer are connected. If bitterness is allowed to remain in your heart, it can become a barrier between you and God. And if your prayers are hindered, where will your help come from? Certainly not from men alone. This is why forgiveness is not optional—it is necessary for your spiritual well-being.

So whether the person apologizes or not, choose to forgive. Forgive so that your conscience remains clear. Forgive so that your heart remains free from unnecessary burdens. Forgive so that your relationship with God remains open and unhindered. These are benefits that go beyond the situation itself—they affect your entire life, reminding you to focus on the right issues.

When forgiveness feels difficult, take practical steps. Make a deliberate decision to forgive, even if your emotions do not agree at first. Speak it out if you need to, just as I did. Repeat it consistently until your heart begins to align with your decision. Over time, what felt impossible will become a reality.

Freedom is worth it. And once you experience the peace that comes with true forgiveness, you will understand why it is necessary. If you have any questions, feel free to leave them in the comment section, and I will gladly respond.

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