Speak What You Desire: The Power of Words in Shaping Your Relationships.

Many times, we fail to realize it, but we are the architects of our own lives. Whether we like it or not, we play a significant role in determining what happens to us. The decisions we make, the habits we form, and most importantly, the thoughts we consistently entertain shape the reality we experience. This is also how faith and obedience unlock God’s Miracle—as we align our actions and thinking with His Word, we position ourselves to experience His power at work in our lives.

I have observed over the years that whatever we consistently think about eventually manifests in our lives. Our thoughts, repeated over time, create a pattern of belief, which then guides our actions, and those actions produce outcomes. Think back to some of the desires or goals you had many years ago. You may realize that some of them have already become your reality, either exactly as you imagined or in ways you did not expect. This demonstrates the power of consistent thought.

The same principle applies to relationships.

Many Christians, for instance, think negatively about marriage or relationships but still desire a healthy, fulfilling union. Often, these negative thoughts are unconsciously absorbed from the world around them. The media, cultural narratives, and even conversations with peers can implant subtle ideas into our minds that shape our perceptions of relationships. Your belief shapes your life, and over time, these internalized thoughts begin to influence your expectations, decisions, and ultimately the kind of relationships you experience.

Whenever I hear a child of God speak negatively about marriage or relationships, I shudder, because it ought not to be so. We are children of the Most High, and we should not allow worldly perspectives to dictate our expectations or influence our faith.

Consider some common statements you may have heard:

• “All men want is sex.”

• “There are no responsible men anymore.”

• “Marriage is not everything.”

• “Whether I get married or not does not matter.”

• “If it is God’s will, I will get married.”

• “All ladies want these days is money.”

• “It is difficult to find true love these days.”

• “There are no marriageable men or women anymore.”

Some of these statements may sound reasonable or even truthful based on certain experiences, but here is the question that matters: Are you speaking what you truly want, or are you voicing fear and doubt?

Your tongue is a creative instrument, a powerful tool that God has given you. The Bible says in Proverbs 18:21: “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits.” In other words, the words you speak shape your reality. They can either build your future or destroy it.

When you consistently voice negative thoughts about relationships, marriage, or life in general, you are, in effect, creating obstacles for yourself. You are programming your mind to expect failure or disappointment, which affects the way you interact with people and opportunities. Conversely, when you deliberately speak positive, faith-filled words—choosing to say what you desire to see—you begin to align your mind, heart, and actions with the reality you desire.

Thinking negatively is already a problem, but voicing those thoughts aloud makes it even worse. When you speak your fears or doubts, you are giving them power. It is like watering a seed; every time you speak it, you help it grow.

As children of God, we must deliberately reject negative confessions of what we do not want and instead hold fast to the positive vision of what we do want. Let us speak life into our relationships, careers, finances, and health. Let us affirm that God’s best is available to us, and we are positioned to receive it.

Consider this: when you speak words of hope, faith, and positivity, you are activating a creative process. Your mind begins to focus on solutions rather than problems. Your actions align with the goals you affirm. Opportunities that were previously hidden become visible, and people who can help you appear in your life. In essence, you begin to create the life you desire.

This principle applies not just to marriage but to every area of life. Whatever you consistently think and speak about will shape your destiny. If you want financial freedom, speak words of prosperity and stewardship. If you want health, affirm vitality and wellness. If you desire meaningful relationships, speak love, patience, and understanding into your interactions—because this is often How I Avoided Punishment Through Faith, choosing words and beliefs that aligned with God’s promises rather than fear or negativity.

It is not enough to hope or wish; deliberate, consistent thought and speech are required. God has given us the power to create with our words and align with His promises. To neglect this power is to limit the life He has made available to us.

So, what practical steps can you take to ensure your thoughts and speech align with God’s best for your life?

1. Be mindful of your thoughts – Pay attention to the ideas and beliefs you dwell on daily. Replace negative or fear-driven thoughts with positive, faith-filled ones.

2. Speak only what you want – If you desire love, peace, or prosperity, make sure your words reflect those desires, not your fears or frustrations.

3. Write down your goals and affirmations – Writing helps to solidify your vision and keeps your focus on what you want to create.

4. Guard your mind against negative influences – Limit exposure to conversations, media, or environments that reinforce fear, doubt, or cynicism.

5. Pray with intentionality – Ask God to renew your mind, strengthen your faith, and guide your words to align with His will.

Remember, life is not just what happens to you—it is also what you create with your mind, your heart, and your words. The sooner you learn to control your thoughts and confessions, the sooner you will experience the life God has designed for you.

So today, make a deliberate choice: think positively, speak positively, and align your life with God’s promises. Hold fast to what you desire, reject negative confessions, and watch as your reality begins to reflect the vision you faithfully cultivate.

God bless you as you take control of your thoughts, words, and life.

If this message has spoken to you, here are some related teachings that will help you understand How to Speak What You Desire more deeply:

• The Power of God’s Word: How a Scripture Saved Me in a Nightmare. 
• Speak What You Desire: The Power of Words in Shaping Your Relationships. 
• What You Focus On Will Magnify: How Your Attention Determines Your Destiny

Consistency is Key: Why Growth and Excellence Require Daily Attention

Have you ever noticed that when you consistently chat with someone on WhatsApp, that person’s number always stays at the top of your chat list? The more you communicate, the more visible that contact remains. When you want to send a message, you don’t have to search for the number—it’s always right there, ready for interaction.

In the same way, renewing your mind works through consistent engagement—what you focus on, think about, and meditate on regularly becomes dominant in your life, shaping your thoughts, decisions, and actions.

But once communication slows down or stops altogether, something interesting happens. That contact gradually moves down the list. Other conversations take its place at the top. Before long, when you want to reach that person again, you have to search for their number or scroll through the list. The connection that was once easy to access is now less immediate, simply because attention was not maintained.

This simple observation reveals a profound truth about life: anything you do not consistently work on will deteriorate over time.

Consider relationships. Any relationship you fail to nurture regularly will weaken. Friendships grow stale if you do not invest time in them. Family bonds weaken when communication and attention are neglected. Marriages and partnerships falter when couples fail to maintain connection and intimacy. The principle is simple: relationships thrive on consistent effort and attention. The same rule applies to your spiritual life. Prayer, Bible study, and fellowship require daily commitment. If neglected, your spiritual vitality diminishes.

Daily activities matter greatly when discussing consistency; therefore, do not neglect a single day. 

The same principle applies to projects and goals. Any project you fail to nurture regularly will eventually stall or fail. A business that is ignored, a study plan that is abandoned, or a fitness routine that is skipped consistently will lose momentum and eventually collapse. Success does not survive on sporadic effort—it responds to regular, disciplined attention.

Even ideas and talents require consistent investment. An idea you receive but do not write down or develop will fade from memory. A talent you refuse to train, polish, or apply will quickly lose its strength. Many people are naturally gifted, but without consistent work, gifts remain dormant, and potential goes unrealized.

This principle applies universally: nothing stays alive by chance. Growth responds to attention. Progress follows consistency. Excellence is not a sudden gift—it is cultivated over time through deliberate, ongoing effort. It reflects the power of consistent obedience—showing up, again and again, in small ways that compound into significant results.

Think about it: the people who achieve remarkable success are not those who stumble upon opportunity by luck. They are those who consistently refine their skills, nurture their ideas, and maintain focus on their goals. They understand that greatness is a journey, not a destination. The person who writes a little each day, practices a craft daily, or invests steadily in relationships steadily rises above those who act inconsistently.

Consistency also builds trust. People notice reliability, commitment, and discipline. A friend, colleague, or leader who shows up regularly inspires confidence. Businesses thrive when leadership demonstrates consistent decision-making and attention to quality. Talents develop fully when practice is consistent, not sporadic.

Excellence, therefore, is not something you arrive at overnight—it is something you walk toward every day. It is a daily commitment to showing up, doing the work, and remaining engaged in the process. Living a fasted life reflects this same discipline—choosing restraint, focus, and spiritual alignment daily. Life rewards persistence and attention, while neglect breeds stagnation, loss, and missed opportunities.

The WhatsApp illustration is simple but powerful. Just as your favorite contact drops down the list when you stop messaging, everything in life that lacks consistent attention will lose its prominence and effectiveness. Relationships, projects, talents, ideas, and spiritual life—all require deliberate and sustained investment.

The key lesson is this: be consistent in the areas that matter. Show up for your goals, invest in your relationships, develop your talents, and nurture your ideas. Make attention and persistence habits. In doing so, you ensure that what matters most in your life stays “at the top of the list.”

Excellence is not a final stop—it is a lifelong journey. And every small, consistent step you take along the way compounds into remarkable growth, achievement, and fulfillment.

If this message has spoken to you, here are some related teachings that will help you understand Consistency is Key more deeply:

• Sound Mind: Exercising Self-Control as a Child of God
• Taking Responsibility for Your Actions: The First Step to Personal and Spiritual Growth. 
• Necessary Evil: Why Pain Is Part of Birthing Your Dreams

Stop Blaming God: Understanding the True Source of Evil in the World

 

There are many things happening in the world today, and we are often quick to blame God for them—even when He is not responsible.

Many Christians, out of ignorance, blame God because they believe He is in control of everything and therefore must be the one allowing evil to happen. When someone dies, we say, “God has taken him.” When a person falls sick, we say God sent or allowed the sickness. When accidents occur, people say, “God allowed it for a reason.” Since God is all-knowing, they assume He must be behind it all.

But here is the truth: ignorance about who is truly responsible for evil in the world has given the devil room to operate without resistance.

If believers truly understood that every evil event bears the signature of the devil, they would rise up in faith to resist him. Sadly, many people who should not have died have been buried long ago because those with the spiritual authority to intervene believed it was God who took them.

We must stop accusing God and understand why most evil happens in the world.

Originally, the earth was given to man.

Genesis 1:28

“And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion…”

God gave man dominion over the earth—the authority to decide what happens here.

However, the devil deceived man and took over that authority.

Luke 4:6

“And the devil said unto him, All this power will I give thee, and the glory of them: for that is delivered unto me…”

Notice that the devil did not lie here. He clearly stated that the authority was delivered to him. Adam handed it over through disobedience, as recorded in Genesis 3.

From the moment the devil took over the rulership of the world, he began to perpetuate evil—sickness, death, accidents, and destruction. That is why the Bible calls him the god of this world.

2 Corinthians 4:4

“In whom the god of this world hath blinded the minds of them which believe not…”

As the god of this world, the devil influences much of what happens on the earth. And because the authority was legally handed over, God often does not interfere directly.

This is why man is the one authorized to stop the devil on earth. Man was originally given that authority.

The good news is this: the dominion stolen by the devil was restored through the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ.

The devil thrives on ignorance. He is pleased when believers do not know that authority has been restored to them. He is even happier when people attribute his evil works to God—because then they attack the wrong target.

This is why Jesus spent His earthly ministry destroying the works of the devil. He healed the sick, cast out demons, and raised the dead—not to show that God caused suffering, but to prove that God is against it.

If sickness and death were from God, Jesus would not have healed the sick or raised the dead.

So the next time someone falls sick, dies, or encounters an accident, do not be quick to attribute it to God.

Our God is good.

He does not do evil so that good may come out of it.

Let us stop accusing God and start standing against the real source of evil.

Stop Waiting on God to Fight the Devil—Use Your Authority

There was a very rich man who lived in a beautiful estate with his only son. The man was extremely busy and traveled frequently due to the demands of his work. Despite his busy schedule, he ensured that his son lacked nothing.

One day, he decided to travel again. This time, however, he did not tell his son when he would return because his trip would be longer than usual. Before leaving, he made careful preparations. He provided everything his son would need to maintain the estate in his absence—teaching him how to walk in your spiritual authority, so he could manage, protect, and represent his father’s interests with confidence and responsibility.

The man understood that after some time, certain challenges would arise. He knew that the environment might begin to attract pests—rats, mosquitoes, cockroaches, and flies. So, in his wisdom, he supplied his son with everything needed to handle these problems: insecticides, rat poison, and other tools to keep the estate clean and safe. In the same way, he made him understand the power you have over the Devil and demons, equipping him with the authority and resources needed to confront and overcome any disturbance.

After putting everything in place, the man left for his journey. From time to time, he checked on his son through phone calls to ensure everything was going well.

Then one day, the son called his father in distress. His voice was urgent and troubled. When the father asked what was wrong, the son replied,

“Daddy, please come and help me deal with the rats, cockroaches, flies, and mosquitoes.”

You can imagine the father’s reaction. Everything the son needed to solve the problem had already been provided. The issue was not a lack of resources—it was a failure to use what had been given.

This story perfectly reflects what many Christians do today.

God has already given us everything we need to deal with the devil and his works. He has equipped us with authority, power, and spiritual tools. Yet, when challenges arise, many believers cry out for God to come down and handle situations He has already empowered them to address.

Fear rules the lives of those who do not know their kingdom rights. Therefore, it is essential that you understand your kingdom rights.

In a sense, God could be asking, “What are you doing with the authority I have already given you?”

Consider how many times Christians pray, “Father, put an end to every operation of the devil in my life.” While this may sound spiritual, it often reflects a misunderstanding of responsibility. We are asking God to do what He has already commanded and empowered us to do.

The Bible says clearly:

“Resist the devil and he will flee from you” (James 4:7).

It does not say, “Ask God to resist the devil for you.” The responsibility is placed on the believer.

God has already given you the “insecticide” and the “rat poison”—your authority in Christ, the Word of God, and the power of the Holy Spirit. Your role is to use them. When you take your stand and exercise your authority, heaven backs you up.

However, if you refuse to act, God will not step in to do what you have been empowered to do. Not because He is unwilling, but because He has already completed His part.

The lesson is simple but powerful:

Stop waiting for God to do what He has already equipped you to handle.

Use your authority. Stand your ground. Resist the enemy.

Because victory is not given to those who only pray—it is experienced by those who act on what God has already provided.

A person who knows their kingdom rights will stand up to anyone who tries to bully them.

If this message has spoken to you, here are some related teachings that will help you understand Your Authority more deeply:

• Fear Not: Understanding Your Authority as a Child of God.
• Don’t Be Afraid of Curses: Why No Curse Can Work Against a Child of God. 
• Your Only Defense Against the Devil’s Arrows: Understanding Righteousness

Stop Putting Your Ignorance Forward: Learn Before You Judge

Forming an opinion about a person or a situation before truly understanding it is what I call putting your ignorance forward. It is a subtle habit, yet very powerful—and often destructive. Many people are unaware that this single mindset limits their growth in both business and relationships.

At its core, this behavior happens when we allow assumptions, past experiences, or incomplete knowledge to guide our conclusions instead of facts and understanding. Rather than listening, observing, and learning, we rush to judge.

You either rise or fall on the strength of your character, so learn to develop godly character.

In Business

This attitude is very common in business environments. Imagine someone approaches you to introduce a product, service, or opportunity. As the person explains the benefits, instead of listening with an open mind, you are already forming conclusions based on what you think you know.

You are not analyzing based on the information being presented—you are reacting based on previous assumptions. In that moment, you have placed your ignorance ahead of knowledge.

A clear example is insurance. Many Nigerians dismiss insurance without truly understanding how it works. The moment the topic is mentioned, some people immediately conclude, “Insurance is a scam,” or “It’s not for people like me.”

But how many of those people have actually taken the time to study insurance policies, understand risk management, or see how it protects individuals and businesses globally? Very few.

This mindset has caused many to miss legitimate opportunities that could have provided financial security or growth. And it is not limited to insurance—this same pattern affects investments, partnerships, and even career opportunities.

When you reject something before understanding it, you are not making a decision—you are reacting from ignorance. The same principle applies spiritually: take time to read the Bible for what it is saying, not what you assume it says, so you can make informed, wise decisions in both life and faith.

In Relationships

The same principle applies to relationships.

You meet someone, and within minutes—or even seconds—you form an opinion about them. Maybe they don’t look the way you expect, speak the way you prefer, or fit your mental image of an “ideal” person. Without meaningful interaction, you already decide who they are.

At that moment, you have placed ignorance before knowledge.

What makes this even more dangerous is what follows. Once a negative impression is formed, your mind begins to filter everything through that bias. It becomes difficult—almost impossible—to see the person objectively.

It is like wearing dark glasses. Everything you see is tinted, not because reality is dark, but because your lens is. The person may act normally, even kindly, yet you will interpret their actions negatively. You will find faults where none exist and magnify small issues into major concerns.

Meanwhile, someone else who approaches the same person without bias may see a completely different individual—kind, intelligent, and valuable.

This shows that the problem is often not the person, but the perspective.

Many Christians learn this lesson when it is too late, but you can learn it now—don’t wait for God to do what you should do.

The Cost of This Mindset

Putting your ignorance forward comes with a heavy cost.

• You miss opportunities in business

• You damage potential relationships

• You limit your ability to learn and grow

• You make decisions based on incomplete or false information

Over time, this habit creates a cycle where you remain stuck in the same level of thinking while others move forward. It raises an important question: how good are you at the basics? Mastering foundational skills, habits, and disciplines is what allows you to break cycles, grow, and move to higher levels of success.

A Better Way to Live

There is a better approach, and it begins with a simple principle:

Let knowledge come before conclusions.

Instead of rushing to judge, pause. Listen. Ask questions. Seek to understand before forming opinions. Give people and opportunities a fair chance to reveal themselves.

In business, this means evaluating ideas based on facts, not assumptions. In relationships, it means giving people time to express who they truly are.

When you suspend judgment, you create room for growth. You allow yourself to discover things you would have otherwise rejected. You begin to make decisions based on clarity rather than bias.

This does not mean you should accept everything blindly. It means you should gather enough understanding before deciding. There is a difference between discernment and premature judgment.

Discernment is informed.

Ignorance is reactive.

Conclusion

Putting your ignorance forward may feel natural, but it is a habit that must be intentionally corrected. The quality of your decisions—and ultimately your life—depends on your ability to see clearly.

So the next time you encounter a new idea, opportunity, or person, ask yourself:

Am I responding from understanding, or am I reacting from assumption?

Choose understanding.

Because when you stop putting your ignorance forward, you open the door to better decisions, stronger relationships, and greater opportunities.

If this message has spoken to you, here are some related teachings that will help you understand how not to put your ignorance forward more deeply:

• Why You Should Not Believe Every Story You Hear
• We See Things the Way We Are: How Judgment Reveals Character.
• What I Learned from Sitting Behind the Computer. 

How to Always Arrive on Time: Beat “African Time” and Respect Your Schedule

There are people who, no matter how important a program is, will always arrive late. It does not matter what they stand to lose or gain—they still show up behind schedule. Over time, this habit becomes part of their identity, and unfortunately, it limits their opportunities. Learning how to build a Godly character means cultivating discipline, integrity, and responsibility in every area of life—including being punctual—so that your life reflects Christ in both word and deed.

If you are a Nigerian still operating on what is commonly called “African time,” it is time to stop. You cannot become a global citizen if you do not respect time. In every serious environment around the world, time is treated as a valuable resource. People who consistently disrespect time are often seen as unreliable, no matter how talented they are.

So, if you truly want to grow, you must learn how to beat time consistently.

From observation, there are two major reasons why people arrive late:

1. Ignorance of when to start preparing in order to arrive on time

2. Disrespect for time

If your problem is the second one—disrespect for time—then the solution lies within you. You must make a personal decision to change. But if your challenge is poor preparation, then this guide will help you build a system that works.

Before we go further, take note of this:
Do not let another person’s attitude toward time determine yours.
Do not arrive late simply because others do.
Dare to be different. Excellence always stands out.

Those who strive for excellence do not allow dialy carry overs in their lives. 

What to Do to Always Arrive on Time

1. Plan Ahead
Start planning for any important program at least one or two days before the event. The level of preparation depends on the distance and importance of the program.

If the event is within your city, begin preparation the evening before.
If it involves traveling outside your state or country, start planning at least two days earlier.

Planning ahead removes last-minute pressure and confusion.

2. Prepare Everything Before the Day
Do not wait until the day of the program to start getting things ready.

Your clothes, shoes, documents, books, and any materials you need should be prepared in advance. The day of the event is not the time to iron clothes, search for missing items, or fix avoidable issues.

Preparation gives you peace of mind and saves valuable time.

When some people arrive late to meetings, they blame everything else. They have not learned how to take responsibility for their actions.

3. Know How Long Your Preparation Takes
Many people underestimate how long it takes them to get ready, and this is a major cause of lateness.

Break your preparation into parts:

• Bathing

• Dressing

• Grooming (including makeup if applicable)

• Final checks

• Preparing children (if necessary)

Be honest about how long each step takes. When you know your true preparation time, you can plan more accurately.

4. Calculate Your Travel Time (With Extra Margin)
Know how long it takes to get to your destination under normal conditions. Then add extra time for unexpected delays such as traffic, road issues, or other interruptions.

For example, if your journey usually takes 30 minutes, add an extra 10–15 minutes. That means you should plan for about 45 minutes.

This buffer protects you from unforeseen circumstances.

When you start going to places on time, endeavor to remain consistent, because consistency is key.

Putting Everything Together

Once you have completed these steps, combine your preparation and travel time.

For example:

• Preparation time = 1 hour

• Travel time = 45 minutes

This means you should begin preparing at least 1 hour and 45 minutes before the program starts. To be safer, you can round it up to 2 hours.

However, be careful—extra time should not make you relaxed or careless. Prepare as though you have no extra time. Discipline is key.

If you consistently follow this process, it will become a habit. And once it becomes a habit, punctuality will no longer be a struggle—it will become your lifestyle.

In conclusion, remember this:

Time respects those who respect it.

When you honor time, opportunities begin to honor you. Doors open more easily, people trust you more, and your value increases.

Make the decision today—become a person who arrives early, prepared, and ready. It is a simple habit, but it has the power to transform your life.

If this message has spoken to you, here are some related teachings that will help you understand How to Always Arrive on Time more deeply:

• Internal vs External Motivation: What Truly Drives You to Succeed
• Necessary Evil: Why Pain Is Part of Birthing Your Dreams
• When Speed Does Not Make Sense: Why Direction Matters More Than Speed

Blending In with the World: A Silent Drift in the Church

 

Luke 16:15 (KJV)

“…for that which is highly esteemed among men is abomination in the sight of God.”

Luke 16:15 (NIV)

“What people value highly is detestable in God’s sight.”

If you are a Christian, you most likely believe this Bible verse. That is why I want to share my thoughts on it.

Many of us believe this scripture, but when it comes to its practical application, we often fall short. Today, we are easily carried away by everything the world throws at us—and there are many of such things. Among them are hidden forms of idolatry—subtle attachments, habits, or priorities that take the place of God in our hearts without us even realizing it. I will only mention a few.

The world places more value on position than on the life a person lives. Once someone attains a high position, they are suddenly regarded as a person of “value.” Their lifestyle becomes something others want to copy. This is why many people today dress, talk, and behave like footballers and music stars.

Sadly, the church has copied the same system and is now busy making excuses for it. Bible passages are searched for and twisted to justify behaviors that were never part of the Christian faith.

Let me ask a simple question:

How did men wearing earrings, plaiting hair, and keeping dreadlocks enter the church?

These things were not part of Christian practice before, yet today we embrace them because we want to fit into the world’s system. Instead of setting standards for the world, the church is now following the world’s standards. This is a form of idolatry to avoid, as it places worldly approval above God’s truth and guidance.

Look at many musicians in churches today, especially instrumentalists. Many of them deliberately want to look like secular musicians or football stars. They want to blend in—and that is very sad.

Today, clothes that should only be worn at parties are now worn to church. Ladies dress in ways that reveal their body shapes. Some deliberately wear very tight clothes to flaunt what they have.

How did we get here?

As a man, I remember sitting behind one such lady in church and having to change my seat because I knew I would not be able to concentrate.

A so-called “spiritual” brother may say it is my fault and not the lady’s fault. Others say my heart is polluted, and that is why I could not stay. But these are some of the very things bringing pollution into the church today, yet we keep finding reasons to justify them.

Many people quietly blend in with the world because they do not recognize this form of idolatry.

Another serious issue that heaven may be frowning at is the celebration of certain days.

Some Christians believe Jesus was born on the 25th of December, which is not true. Many of these celebration days originally existed to honor idols. The same manner of celebration used to honor those idols is still being practiced today.

If God wanted us to celebrate Christmas or any other similar celebrations, He would have clearly stated it in the Bible. God intentionally hid the date of Jesus’ birth so that we would not idolize it—yet many have done exactly that.

Some churches even place Christmas trees on the altar. Of what spiritual value is that to the Christian faith? Do we truly know the origin of the Christmas tree?

Are we not participating in idolatry when we do what we cannot biblically defend?

Some people use Jesus as a tool to meet their needs, not realizing that this is another form of idolatry.

Christians may give the Christmas tree a “Christian name” to feel comfortable, but renaming something does not change its origin.

May God help us to shine the light of the gospel correctly to the world and not allow ourselves to be contaminated by the world, in Jesus’ name.

Let us be careful about the things the world chases after, because many of them are an abomination before God.

If this message has spoken to you, here are some related teachings that will help you understand Blending In with the World more deeply:

• Kingdom Person vs Church Person: Key Differences You Must Know
• Silent Forms of Idolatry Practiced by Christians Today: Fear-Based Faith (Part 4)
• Silent Forms of Idolatry Practiced by Christians Today: Ritual Christianity Without Relationship (Part 3)

Internal vs External Motivation: What Truly Drives You to Succeed

Internally motivated people are driven from within. Their motivation does not depend on applause, recognition, or external pressure—they know what they want, and that inner drive pushes them forward.

Such people have a clear vision of the life they want to live. They already know:

• The kind of life they desire

• The type of car or possessions they want to acquire

• The places they want to travel

• The standards by which they want to live

They may not yet know the exact path to achieve all these goals, but they are consistently seeking legitimate ways to meet their needs. Opportunities that align with their vision are met with determination, focus, and consistent effort. They don’t need constant reminders or someone pushing them—they are propelled from within. Their drive is sustainable because it comes from their own internal compass, not temporary external influences.

Most people are not internally motivated because their thoughts often betray them. They have not learned how to renew their minds and cultivate the right thinking. 

Internally motivated people are also hungry for growth. They actively seek opportunities that can help them reach their goals. You rarely need to convince them; once they recognize a path that aligns with their vision, they give it everything it takes to succeed. This is why internally motivated individuals are often more resilient in the face of delays or challenges. Even when progress seems slow, they can hold on because something deep inside continues to push them forward.

These individuals do not follow the crowd or engage in actions simply because others are doing them. Their efforts are deliberate, guided by personal conviction rather than societal pressure. How your beliefs shape your life is seen in the choices you make and the standards you uphold—these people measure success based on their own convictions, not the opinions of others.

However, being internally motivated does not mean a person is immune to external influence. Internally motivated people can respond to external motivation, but this influence is usually temporary. For example, when they see friends driving nice cars or hear people celebrating achievements, they may feel motivated to work toward similar goals. This can spark short-term action, but once the external stimulus fades, the motivation often diminishes.

Some people appear driven only when others are watching. Their idea of success is dependent on recognition—they may seem ambitious in public but lack personal discipline when alone. They rely on external cues to push them into action, and without these cues, their productivity or progress stalls.

You are what you think. This is why you must think the right thoughts. This shows clearly the power of thoughts.. 

This contrast raises a critical question: Are you internally motivated, or are you externally motivated?

Understanding your answer is essential because it explains why some people start many projects but finish very few. Externally motivated individuals often begin ventures inspired by admiration, competition, or peer pressure. Their energy spikes when others notice their efforts, but fades when the spotlight is gone. Internally motivated people, on the other hand, stay committed regardless of recognition or immediate rewards. Their drive is personal, consistent, and self-sustaining.

To become more effective in achieving your goals, it’s important to cultivate internal motivation. Clarify what you truly want in life. Align your daily actions with your vision, and protect and guide your thoughts so they stay focused on your purpose rather than distractions or negativity. Seek opportunities that resonate with your long-term goals, not just those that impress others. When your motivation comes from within, delays, obstacles, and criticism become minor challenges rather than roadblocks.

The ultimate question to ask yourself is simple: Is your drive coming from inside, or are you waiting for someone or something outside of you to push you into action? Your answer may reveal why your progress feels slow—or why your efforts often fizzle out before you reach your goals.

Internal motivation is the fuel for lasting success. Start by identifying your vision, creating your standards, and building habits that keep you moving forward—even when no one is watching. Once you master this, external motivators may enhance your progress, but your internal drive will always be the engine that keeps you going.

If this message has spoken to you, here are some related teachings that will help you understand Internal vs External Motivation more deeply:

• Sound Mind: Exercising Self-Control as a Child of God
• Soft Programming: How Your Subconscious Shapes Your Life Without You Noticing
• Consistency is Key: Why Growth and Excellence Require Daily Attention

Kingdom Person vs Church Person: Key Differences You Must Know

There is a huge difference between a kingdom person and a “church” person. Understanding this distinction is crucial for anyone who desires to live a life that truly honors God and advances His purposes. At the heart of this difference is what it truly means to be born again—to experience a genuine transformation of the heart and mindset, aligning one’s life with God’s kingdom values rather than simply following religious routines. Let’s explore some of these differences.

A kingdom person knows how to represent God’s Kingdom in every area of life, including business. They understand that their work, finances, and decisions can serve a higher purpose. In contrast, a “church” person often compartmentalizes their life, saying, “This is business, not church.” They fail to see that God’s Kingdom extends far beyond Sunday services or church programs. This is why Jesus said you must be born again—so that every part of your life, not just the religious aspects, is transformed and aligned with God’s Kingdom purposes.

A kingdom person can discern when someone is acting in alignment with kingdom principles, whereas a church person may lack that understanding. Consider, for example, the values represented by leaders like Donald Trump and Joe Biden. Each operated from different value systems—different “kingdoms”—and understanding that helps a kingdom person navigate relationships and opportunities with clarity. A church person, on the other hand, may struggle to see the spiritual significance behind everyday actions and decisions.

A kingdom person recognizes that every aspect of life should expand the Kingdom of God. Work, leisure, relationships, finances—all are tools to further kingdom purposes. A church person often separates “church life” from “real life,” saying, “This is not church. When we go to church, we behave like church people.” Outside of the church, kingdom values are often set aside.

Many people get born again but don’t know what they received when it happened—this should not be your experience.

Serving God, for a kingdom person, is a lifestyle, not a religion. It is not limited to rituals or specific programs. In contrast, a church person tends to live two lives: one on Sunday or during church activities, and another in the world, often disconnected from kingdom principles.

Kingdom people understand the mysteries of the Kingdom of God—how His principles operate in both the spiritual and natural realms. Church people often lack this insight, focusing on surface-level religious practices rather than seeking deeper understanding.

When it comes to resources, a kingdom person sees every blessing, talent, and possession as a tool to serve kingdom purposes. A church person, however, may argue over tithes or offerings, viewing giving as optional or burdensome rather than as a kingdom investment.

In relationships and business dealings, a kingdom person acts according to kingdom values, prioritizing integrity, fairness, and honor. A church person may pursue personal gain, often without considering the impact on others. Kingdom people understand that how they treat others is a reflection of God’s Kingdom.

A kingdom person willingly sacrifices time to serve the Kingdom, whether in prayer, mentorship, or ministry. A church person, by contrast, gives God only what remains after personal plans are fulfilled—the leftover time that is often insufficient to make a real impact.

Spending time in God’s presence is also approached differently. For a kingdom person, personal devotion, prayer, and participation in church programs are seen as a kingdom investment that yields eternal returns. A church person may see these same activities as a waste of precious time or an obligation rather than a privilege.

Even simple priorities highlight the difference: a kingdom person will prioritize Bible study, worship, or prayer over entertainment such as a football match. A church person often waits until personal pleasures are fulfilled before turning to God.

In case you meet people whose lifestyle does not match what they preach, here is what you should do: take this advice from Jesus.

The ultimate question is this: Are you a kingdom person or a church person? Do you live a life fully aligned with God’s purposes in every area, or do you compartmentalize your faith? Kingdom living requires intentionality, discipline, and a mindset that sees every opportunity, resource, and relationship as part of God’s greater plan. Understanding and embracing this distinction is essential for anyone who desires to make a lasting impact for God’s Kingdom.

If this message has spoken to you, here are some related teachings that will help you understand Kingdom Person vs Church Person more deeply:

• Blending In with the World: A Silent Drift in the Church
• Material Wealth Does Not Measure a True Relationship With God
• Are You Really Giving to God? Rethinking the Way We Give Offerings

Build Your Personal Prayer and Bible Study Life Before Life’s Storms

A man woke up one morning and hurried out of his house to go to work. As he made his way along the road, rain suddenly began to fall. He had no umbrella, and there was no nearby shop where he could quickly buy one. He was unprepared, exposed to the elements, and at the mercy of the weather.

This is much like life without a strong personal relationship with God. Without daily connection, guidance, and the protection that comes from knowing Him, we can find ourselves unprepared for challenges, vulnerable to circumstances, and unable to stand firm when storms come. A close walk with God equips us with the wisdom, strength, and covering we need to face life’s unexpected downpours.

As he walked, he noticed someone ahead of him carrying an umbrella. Hoping to avoid getting drenched, he decided to walk alongside the person and share the cover of the umbrella. For a while, he was protected from the rain, moving comfortably toward what he assumed was his destination.

After walking some distance, the owner of the umbrella mentioned his own destination—which, to the man’s surprise, was completely different from where he needed to go. When they finally reached the point where their paths diverged, the man had no choice but to leave the umbrella behind and step back into the rain. Suddenly, he was fully exposed again. Without protection, he would soon be soaked before reaching his office.

This scenario illustrates a spiritual truth that affects many lives today. Just as the man relied on another person’s umbrella, many people rely entirely on others for prayer, guidance, and spiritual direction. They depend on family members, friends, mentors, or even church leaders to cover them spiritually, without cultivating their own personal relationship with God. The secret place truly means that intimate, private time with God where we receive direction, strength, and covering for ourselves—without depending solely on others. It’s in the secret place that our faith becomes personal, powerful, and unshakable.

At first, this may seem to work. There will be moments when others are available to pray for you, guide you, or support you. But inevitably, a time will come when that “umbrella” is no longer available. The rain of life—trials, challenges, or spiritual attacks—will fall suddenly and without warning. If you have no personal connection with God through prayer and Bible study, you will be unprepared to endure the storm.

The solution is simple: don’t wait for a crisis to start building your spiritual life. Go out now and “buy your own umbrella.” Develop a consistent habit of personal prayer and daily Bible study. Spend time alone with God, learning His ways, seeking His guidance, and allowing His Spirit to strengthen and equip you. Hindrances to a personal relationship with God, such as busyness, distractions, or relying too heavily on others, can keep you unprepared if not addressed. The umbrella you build for yourself today will shield you when challenges come tomorrow.

Moreover, the benefits extend beyond you. When you invest in your own spiritual growth, your children and family also benefit. They witness a life anchored in God, and your example can inspire them to cultivate their own personal relationship with Him. The protection and guidance you develop through prayer and study have an eternal ripple effect on those around you.

In life, no one can carry your spiritual protection for you permanently. Relying solely on others may give temporary relief, but only a personal, disciplined connection with God will stand the test of time. The benefits of a personal relationship with God—guidance, strength, peace, and protection—become evident as you walk closely with Him each day. Don’t wait for the rain to fall before taking action. Start today, build your own spiritual umbrella, and secure both your life and the lives of those you love for eternity.

If this message has spoken to you, here are some related teachings that will help you understand Personal Prayer and Bible Study Life more deeply:

• Cast Your Cares on Jesus: How to Overcome Worry and Find True Peace
• Wrap Yourself in the Word: The Power of a Life Regulated by God’s Word
• When Hell Breaks Loose After God’s Word: Why Victory Is Near

Why Children Should Know the Lord Early: A Personal Testimony

I want to share a part of my story to show how important it is for children to know the Lord early in life.

By the grace of God, I encountered the Lord Jesus at a young age and was taught about kingdom authority and spiritual privileges. That early foundation helped me greatly while I was in school and laid the groundwork for understanding kingdom principles for effective ministry.

I attended Maryknoll College, Ogoja, Cross River State, and I am sure some of my schoolmates may be reading this today.

In the school, we had a borehole from which we drank water whenever we were thirsty. Sometimes, after labor or play, students would gather there to wash their hands, legs, and faces. That simple act reminds me of a deeper truth: just as our bodies need clean water to refresh and sustain them, our children need spiritual nourishment to grow strong and resilient. Raising spiritually powerful children is about giving them access to that life-giving “water” — teaching them to pray, study God’s Word, and cultivate a heart that seeks righteousness. Just like we returned to the borehole to cleanse ourselves, children must be guided to return daily to God for renewal, strength, and purpose, so they can face life’s challenges with faith, character, and confidence.

One day, as usual, many of us gathered around the borehole. Some came to drink water, others to wash their faces. I can’t clearly remember whether it was break time or labour period, but we were all there.

Then a young man arrived. He was beaming with smiles and had a very friendly personality, shaking hands with many students.

He walked up to me, smiled, and we shook hands. Immediately after, I felt something move from my palm up to my shoulder.

It made me realize why many children from Christian homes do not serve God: they are influenced more by what they see and feel in the world than by what they are taught at home. Without a personal encounter with God, faith can remain distant, no matter how faithfully they were raised.

I was shocked. I had never experienced anything like that in my life. Instinctively, I placed my left hand on my shoulder and said aloud:

“I have seen you. You can now go back to where you are coming from.”

Immediately I said that, the movement stopped.

I cannot tell what would have happened if I had not stopped it. Little wonder many people today experience strange movements or afflictions in their bodies without knowing how or when it started.

Just as the children of light are on assignment in schools, the children of darkness are also on assignment. One of the greatest ways our children can be protected is for them to know the Lord early and to understand their kingdom privileges. In this information age, where distractions and influences come from every direction, parents must intentionally spend time communicating with their children—guiding, teaching, and correcting them daily. Ignorance is dangerous—but light is powerful.

If this message has spoken to you, here are some related teachings that will help you understand Why Children Should Know the Lord Early more deeply:

All the Help You Need Is Already in You

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Benefits of a Personal Relationship with God

The Real Enemy of Nigeria: Understanding the Divide-and-Rule Strategy

Nigeria has been independent for over 60 years, yet the same tactic has been used against us, and many still do not see it.

We must understand something: Nigeria has one real enemy—the devil—and he has been using a particular set of people as instruments to carry out his agenda. Even these people are also victims, because one day, they will regret the role they played. This is why it is crucial for us to live with integrity, justice, and faithfulness, staying true to God’s ways no matter the pressures around us.

Nigeria has three major ethnic groups: Igbo, Yoruba, and Hausa. Historically, these tribes lived as brothers until the arrival of Usman Dan Fodio.

He conquered the northern region and became part of it. Today, his followers are the group many now refer to as “the Northerners.” But let it be clear: the people causing the problems in Nigeria are not our Hausa brothers — it is this ideological group that came through conquest and embedded themselves into the system.

Over time, they took over political power and most key national institutions. They strategically took control of everything that could be used to challenge or expose them.

Once they succeeded physically, they introduced a psychological strategy — a weapon more destructive than military power: Divide and Rule.

They know that power cannot stand unless the majority supports it. So they searched for a method to maintain control, and they found it by dividing Nigerians emotionally and mentally.

Their greatest fear is unity.

They know that if two major tribes agree, their dominance will collapse. So instead of fighting all Nigerians at once, they used a simple strategy:

👉 Turn brothers into enemies.

They successfully pitched Igbo against Yoruba.

While these two tribes fight each other online and offline, the real enemy sits comfortably in power.

They gained the loyalty of many Northerners by influencing their identity and mindset. Many believe they share a common cause with this group—but they don’t. This group has no true friends, not even the North. Their loyalty is to their ideology alone. This is why Nigerians, let’s embrace accountability, ensuring that our actions, choices, and allegiances are rooted in truth and justice rather than manipulation.

Let me make this clearer:

When Nnamdi Kanu was arrested and it was time to sentence him, they intentionally used a Yoruba judge.

Not because Yoruba are loyal to them — but because, at the moment, they appear to be in alignment. The goal was simple:

👉 Turn Igbo against Yoruba emotionally.

This tactic has been used repeatedly since independence.

If Nigerians understand this pattern, we will realize that we do not need to fight each other — we need to unite against the system that thrives through our division.

Imagine what would happen if the Yoruba and Igbo stood together, with the true Hausa — not the ideologues — and demanded accountability. This will lead everyone to take responsibility for their actions, helping to make Nigeria a better place.

That unity is what the system fears.

So they invest in hatred, tribal tension, misinformation, and emotional manipulation — because a united Nigeria would break their power permanently.

May God give us wisdom, discernment, and unity.

As Nigerians, we should learn to treat ourselves well and show love to everyone.

If this message has spoken to you, here are some related teachings that will help you understand The Real Enemy of Nigeria more deeply:

• Focus on the Right Issue: How to Handle Conflict Without Destroying Relationships
• Why You Should Not Believe Every Story You Hear
• We See Things the Way We Are: How Judgment Reveals Character.

The Secret Place: Why Spending Time with God is Key to Effective Ministry.

II Chronicles 1:13 NKJV

[13] So Solomon came to Jerusalem from the high place that was at Gibeon, from before the tabernacle of meeting, and reigned over Israel.

While reading through the Open Heavens devotional this morning, this verse stood out to me in a profound way. As I reflected on it, the Spirit revealed something crucial about the work God has given each of us and the foundation we must have to carry it out effectively. To have a solid foundation to help us fulfill our ministry here on earth, you need to know how to build a solid relationship with God. 

At first glance, the verse simply tells us that Solomon came to Jerusalem from Gibeon, from before the tabernacle of meeting, and then reigned over Israel. But if we look deeper, it teaches us an important principle: where we come from determines how effective we will be in the work God has called us to do.

God has a divine assignment for every believer—work that only His Spirit can accomplish. No human effort, no amount of talent or intellect, can substitute for this. The Bible is clear: “By the flesh can no man prevail” (1 Corinthians 2:14). Spirit-led work cannot be carried out with human energy alone. Therefore, what we do before stepping into our assignment matters more than we often realize.

As we carry out our God-given assignment on earth, God does not leave us without blessings when we cultivate a personal relationship with Him.

The principle is simple: if God’s Spirit is going to work through us, we must begin in His presence. Before we execute His assignments, we must first receive His instruction, guidance, and grace. This is why the “secret place”—the time we spend alone with God—is not optional. It is foundational. When Solomon came from Gibeon, he was coming from a place of intimacy with God. He did not step into leadership from a casual or indifferent place; he first positioned himself in God’s presence.

Unfortunately, in today’s generation, many people attempt to carry out God’s work without first being grounded in Him. Some seek worldly shortcuts, turning to charms, rituals, or other unholy practices to achieve spiritual results. Others approach ministry while still entangled in personal compromises—alcohol, quarrels, fornication, or other distractions. Some even come directly from their office jobs, exhausted, to serve in God’s work. While the desire to serve is commendable, the effectiveness of our service is directly linked to the place we come from spiritually.

When we attempt God’s work without first connecting with Him, our efforts may be well-intentioned but limited in impact. We can deliver messages, teach, or even lead people, yet the lives of those we serve may remain unchanged. True transformation begins in the secret place, not on the platform. It is only when God first reveals Himself to us that He can work through us to reveal Himself to others.

Think about it: how can we truly represent God to people if we have not spent time with Him ourselves? Just as an ambassador cannot speak for a country they know nothing about, we cannot impact lives for God if we know Him only superficially. The time spent in prayer, meditation on the Word, and communion with the Spirit is what equips us to serve effectively—and understanding the common hindrances to having an effective personal relationship with God can help us grow deeper in our walk with Him.

This is why prioritizing the secret place is non-negotiable. The public ministry—sermons, teachings, evangelism—can only be as effective as the private preparation that precedes it. Without this foundation, our service may appear active on the surface, but it will lack depth, power, and lasting influence. People may listen to us repeatedly without experiencing real change. But when we spend quality time in God’s presence, He equips us with wisdom, authority, and power to transform lives.

Therefore, whether you are stepping into leadership, teaching, or any form of ministry, remember this principle: always come from the presence of God. Position yourself in His Spirit before executing any assignment. Seek His guidance, receive His grace, and allow His Spirit to work through you. When your public service flows from a private intimacy with God, it becomes powerful, effective, and impactful.

In conclusion, the lesson from II Chronicles 1:13 is clear: the effectiveness of our work for God depends on the place we come from. Let the secret place—the intimate fellowship with God—be your starting point for every assignment. Making building an effective relationship with God a priority and guarding it diligently will ensure that your service in the public realm begins to bear eternal fruit.

If this message has spoken to you, here are some related teachings that will help you understand The Secret Place more deeply:

• Wrap Yourself in the Word: The Power of a Life Regulated by God’s Word. 
• Build Your Personal Prayer and Bible Study Life Before Life’s Storms
• Does God Still Speak Today? 5 Powerful Ways God Speaks to Us

The Power of Consistent Obedience: How the Same Action Can Yield Different Results.

 I want to share what God taught me during yesterday’s service. The preacher spoke about the wonders of God and God showed me how the same action could produce different results. 

Many times, we struggle to believe spiritual things because they don’t make sense to the human mind. You must have heard the saying, “You can’t keep doing the same thing and expect a different result.” That is human reasoning. But spiritually, you can do the same thing a million times and still get a million different results—this is exactly how faith and obedience unlock God’s miracles.

There was one major action God repeatedly used to deliver the children of Israel from Egypt: “Stretch your hand.” Almost every time God wanted to perform a wonder, He asked Moses to stretch out his rod or his hands.

God asked Moses to stretch out his hands several times and to stretch out his rod more than once. Yet, each time Moses obeyed, the outcome was different. The same action produced different results throughout Scripture.

From a human point of view, Moses could have thought, “God, why not ask me to do something else? This stretching of the rod is becoming too routine.” But Moses understood something deeper: obedience matters more than variety.

He knew that even if God asked him to do the same thing a million times, his responsibility was to obey every single time.

I believe this is a lesson for all of us. If God has not changed His instruction, we have no reason to change our obedience. When walking with God, consistency is not a weakness—it is a requirement for maximum results.

We see this same pattern in our walk with God today. We are asked to go to the place of prayer daily, often repeating prayers we have prayed before.

It is through consistently praying and acting on God’s Word that He empowers us and shapes us into who He intends us to be.

One practice that makes the least sense to the natural mind is praying in tongues. You don’t understand what you’re saying, and sometimes it feels like you’re repeating the same words.

At times, I have wondered, “God, am I wasting my time praying in tongues? Does this really work?”

Yes, it does. We believe it works because the Bible says so. And sometimes, God allows us to see physical results after praying only in tongues, just to reassure us that it truly works.

What about attending church services regularly—sometimes two or three times a week? Someone may ask, “Can’t I just read my Bible and pray at home?”

Yes, you can read your Bible and pray at home. But obedience to God also includes fellowship and gathering with other believers. If we truly want to obey God, frequent participation in church services matters. Your next breakthrough might depend on the next church server you attend. 

So the next time God asks you to keep doing the same thing—even when it doesn’t make sense to your natural mind—remember this:

The same action you are repeating may be producing different results. You will also see from the life of Joshua how his consistent obedience to God led to victory.

If this message has spoken to you, here are some related teachings that will help you understand The Power of Consistent Obedience more deeply:

Don’t Allow Daily Carryovers: Why Consistency Matters in Life and Spiritual Growth

Consistency is Key: Why Growth and Excellence Require Daily Attention

Living a Fasted Life: Beyond Occasional Fasting in the Christian Walk.